1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:13,013 --> 00:00:22,979 [ music ] 4 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:38,647 [ music ] 5 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:52,400 [ music ] 6 00:01:31,134 --> 00:01:35,312 Echoing Female Voice: Alice. 7 00:01:35,486 --> 00:01:39,664 Alice? 8 00:01:39,838 --> 00:01:41,971 Look at this mess. Oh, look at my kitchen. 9 00:01:42,145 --> 00:01:43,277 Sweetheart, what are you doing? 10 00:01:43,451 --> 00:01:48,369 Oh, you're always making messes. 11 00:01:48,543 --> 00:01:50,719 Let me see your hands. 12 00:01:50,893 --> 00:01:53,548 Okay, go wash up. Stay in your room. 13 00:01:53,722 --> 00:01:55,854 You make a mess out of everything you touch. 14 00:01:56,028 --> 00:02:01,425 [ music fades ] 15 00:02:01,599 --> 00:02:06,256 - Charlie, say something. 16 00:02:06,430 --> 00:02:08,650 - I thought we were safe. 17 00:02:08,824 --> 00:02:11,131 You know, you-you, you had protection. 18 00:02:11,305 --> 00:02:16,048 When did this happen? How far along are you? 19 00:02:16,223 --> 00:02:17,920 - Twelve weeks? 20 00:02:18,094 --> 00:02:19,356 I don't know. Twelve or thirteen. 21 00:02:19,530 --> 00:02:21,402 - [ moans ] 22 00:02:21,576 --> 00:02:23,273 - Which means I'm having this baby in December. 23 00:02:23,447 --> 00:02:25,232 [ laughs ] 24 00:02:25,406 --> 00:02:28,844 Gonna go into my Spring Semester with a--a baby... 25 00:02:29,018 --> 00:02:34,502 Charlie, I'm 20. I don't know how to be a mom. 26 00:02:34,676 --> 00:02:41,073 - Do you even want to think about...options? 27 00:02:41,248 --> 00:02:43,250 - I mean, I--I know I don't want to mess up 28 00:02:43,424 --> 00:02:45,426 some poor kid's life. 29 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,558 - You're not gonna mess anything up. 30 00:02:47,732 --> 00:02:48,994 All right? That's your mom talking. 31 00:02:49,169 --> 00:02:50,387 - But we already screwed up the plan. 32 00:02:50,561 --> 00:02:54,565 This wasn't supposed to happen first. 33 00:02:54,739 --> 00:02:56,567 We're supposed to get married first. We're supposed to-- 34 00:02:56,741 --> 00:02:59,048 to have a few years together, you know. 35 00:02:59,222 --> 00:03:03,313 My gosh, my mom's gonna kill me. 36 00:03:03,487 --> 00:03:13,193 Babe, when I tell her, she's never gonna speak to me again. 37 00:03:13,367 --> 00:03:17,675 Do you want to keep this baby? 38 00:03:17,849 --> 00:03:21,244 - Only if it's a boy. - What? 39 00:03:21,418 --> 00:03:23,551 Babe? - Listen--I'm kidding. 40 00:03:23,725 --> 00:03:25,727 Come here. Give me your hands. 41 00:03:25,901 --> 00:03:28,469 Listen. 42 00:03:28,643 --> 00:03:30,122 [ exhales ] Okay. 43 00:03:30,297 --> 00:03:32,124 [ music ] Look at me. Look at me. 44 00:03:32,299 --> 00:03:34,823 Hey, hey. Okay. 45 00:03:34,997 --> 00:03:38,479 This is not the worst thing that could happen, you know? 46 00:03:38,653 --> 00:03:42,874 I'm--I'm--I'm--I'm half way through my 20's. 47 00:03:43,048 --> 00:03:45,094 I think I'm ready. 48 00:03:45,268 --> 00:03:46,878 Yeah. Yeah. 49 00:03:47,052 --> 00:03:49,229 I do. And I think you're ready too. 50 00:03:49,403 --> 00:03:50,273 We can do this. - [ laughing, crying ] 51 00:03:50,447 --> 00:03:52,319 - We got this. 52 00:03:52,493 --> 00:03:56,410 - Kay. - Okay? 53 00:03:56,584 --> 00:03:59,935 - [ sighs, sniffs ] 54 00:04:00,109 --> 00:04:02,154 - Cool. 55 00:04:02,329 --> 00:04:04,287 - When I tell my mom that I'm having a baby 56 00:04:04,461 --> 00:04:06,507 and we're not married, she's... 57 00:04:06,681 --> 00:04:08,291 My parents are not gonna be happy with me. 58 00:04:08,465 --> 00:04:10,772 - Okay. 59 00:04:10,946 --> 00:04:11,947 Wha--let's do that, then. 60 00:04:12,121 --> 00:04:13,688 - I--I wasn't-- 61 00:04:13,862 --> 00:04:15,516 - No, I-- - I promise, I wasn't trying 62 00:04:15,690 --> 00:04:17,561 to talk you into anything. - I know, but I'm serious. 63 00:04:17,735 --> 00:04:19,433 Let's get married. Right now. 64 00:04:19,607 --> 00:04:21,130 Justice of the Peace. 65 00:04:21,304 --> 00:04:22,740 - [ laughs ] 66 00:04:22,914 --> 00:04:24,873 - Come on. 67 00:04:25,047 --> 00:04:26,527 - What about a wedding? 68 00:04:26,701 --> 00:04:28,355 My poor mother has been planning the thing 69 00:04:28,529 --> 00:04:29,704 since before I was born. 70 00:04:29,878 --> 00:04:32,968 - I'm--babe, I know. And-- 71 00:04:33,142 --> 00:04:37,799 Well, truthfully, I feel like we're kinda past that now right? 72 00:04:37,973 --> 00:04:40,410 I mean, we--you-- we're having a baby. 73 00:04:40,584 --> 00:04:42,586 - [ laughs ] 74 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:46,198 - And we gotta do it right. 75 00:04:46,373 --> 00:04:49,158 - No, I know. You're right. You're right. 76 00:04:49,332 --> 00:04:51,116 - So... 77 00:04:51,291 --> 00:04:52,292 - But you haven't even proposed yet. 78 00:04:52,466 --> 00:04:53,902 [ sighs ] 79 00:04:54,076 --> 00:04:55,556 We can't just go to the court house. 80 00:04:55,730 --> 00:04:58,820 There's a lot of girls-- - Will you marry me? 81 00:04:58,994 --> 00:05:01,649 - Charlie. I love you. 82 00:05:01,823 --> 00:05:02,693 - I love you. - We don't have to rush into-- 83 00:05:02,867 --> 00:05:05,957 - I'm not--um... 84 00:05:06,131 --> 00:05:07,568 I got things a little out of order. 85 00:05:07,742 --> 00:05:09,134 I realize that, but... 86 00:05:09,309 --> 00:05:13,704 [ music ] 87 00:05:13,878 --> 00:05:15,227 I'll be right back. 88 00:05:15,402 --> 00:05:18,143 - Babe. Babe. 89 00:05:18,318 --> 00:05:19,623 - How are you? - Fine. 90 00:05:19,797 --> 00:05:21,625 - Fantastic... [ indistinct chatter ] 91 00:05:21,799 --> 00:05:26,978 [ music ] 92 00:05:27,152 --> 00:05:33,985 Can I have that? Excellent service. Thank you. 93 00:05:34,159 --> 00:05:37,424 Yep. Okay. 94 00:05:37,598 --> 00:05:38,773 - What are you doing? - Give me your hands. 95 00:05:38,947 --> 00:05:44,300 - Babe. - Give me your hands. 96 00:05:44,474 --> 00:05:46,650 - I'll live only for your happiness... 97 00:05:46,824 --> 00:05:50,785 for your love, I would give my last breath. 98 00:05:50,959 --> 00:05:54,528 Alice [whispering]: Not here. 99 00:05:54,702 --> 00:05:56,878 - As long as I live. 100 00:05:57,052 --> 00:06:00,011 I will love you. 101 00:06:00,185 --> 00:06:02,840 I promise you this. 102 00:06:03,014 --> 00:06:09,107 There is nothing I wouldn't give from this moment on. 103 00:06:09,281 --> 00:06:13,808 Ali, will you marry me? 104 00:06:13,982 --> 00:06:15,636 - I hope you know what you're getting yourself into. 105 00:06:15,810 --> 00:06:20,423 - Are you saying yes? 106 00:06:20,597 --> 00:06:25,210 Yes, yes, I'll marry you. - Yeah? Ah. Okay. All right. 107 00:06:25,385 --> 00:06:27,735 - Oh, baby, you don't have to put that on.. 108 00:06:27,909 --> 00:06:31,521 - This is gonna be great. 109 00:06:31,695 --> 00:06:33,828 - [ laughs ] 110 00:06:34,002 --> 00:06:36,961 - I mean, you're insane. I'm marrying a crazy person. 111 00:06:37,135 --> 00:06:40,574 - Don't get too attached to that. Gonna replace that soon. 112 00:06:40,748 --> 00:06:42,793 I really do love you.. 113 00:06:42,967 --> 00:06:45,317 - I really do love you too. 114 00:06:45,492 --> 00:06:47,450 [ music ] 115 00:06:47,624 --> 00:06:49,670 [ music stops ] 116 00:06:49,844 --> 00:06:53,891 Did--did you just propose with Shania Twain lyrics? 117 00:06:54,065 --> 00:06:56,677 - Yes. Yes I did. But you can't take it back n. 118 00:06:56,851 --> 00:06:58,809 It's too late. She said "yes," everybody! 119 00:06:58,983 --> 00:07:00,768 [ clapping ] 120 00:07:00,942 --> 00:07:05,337 [ crying ] 121 00:07:05,512 --> 00:07:06,991 Alice: Is he healthy? 122 00:07:07,165 --> 00:07:10,168 - Mm-hm. Sure is. Sorry about the scare. 123 00:07:10,342 --> 00:07:11,909 You have a nice-sized little boy. 124 00:07:12,083 --> 00:07:12,997 [ laughs ] 125 00:07:13,171 --> 00:07:14,695 And you're due? 126 00:07:14,869 --> 00:07:17,088 - Oh, the doctor says eight weeks but... 127 00:07:17,262 --> 00:07:19,308 I think he'll come early. 128 00:07:19,482 --> 00:07:21,789 - Every first-time momma thinks they're gonna deliver early. 129 00:07:21,963 --> 00:07:24,052 You're like, there's no way I can get any bigger 130 00:07:24,226 --> 00:07:26,358 than I already am, but they do. 131 00:07:26,533 --> 00:07:27,969 - Really? - Uh-huh. 132 00:07:28,143 --> 00:07:30,406 - This scare just made me realize how much 133 00:07:30,580 --> 00:07:32,756 I really do want him here. 134 00:07:32,930 --> 00:07:34,671 - Yeah, there's nothing like the first time you see that baby. 135 00:07:34,845 --> 00:07:37,152 - Oh, you have kids? 136 00:07:37,326 --> 00:07:38,849 - Uh-huh. - How many? 137 00:07:39,023 --> 00:07:41,461 - I have two. I just gave birth to my second. 138 00:07:41,635 --> 00:07:43,332 A few months ago. 139 00:07:43,506 --> 00:07:48,163 - I do want him to be here but then... 140 00:07:48,337 --> 00:07:51,601 at the same time, I don't know what to do when is here, you know? 141 00:07:51,775 --> 00:07:53,473 And more than anything, I just don't want to-- 142 00:07:53,647 --> 00:07:56,345 - Honey. you don't have to be afraid of a child. 143 00:07:56,519 --> 00:07:58,956 You're going to a great mom. 144 00:07:59,130 --> 00:08:00,915 You're gonna mess up, yes. 145 00:08:01,089 --> 00:08:02,612 All you gotta do is love 'em. 146 00:08:02,786 --> 00:08:04,353 And put the fear of God in 'em as they grow. 147 00:08:04,527 --> 00:08:06,573 - I don't know. 148 00:08:06,747 --> 00:08:08,139 I don't know what is about motherhood that just has me 149 00:08:08,313 --> 00:08:11,665 so...I don't know. 150 00:08:11,839 --> 00:08:14,755 Second-guessing myself, I just... I mean, I know I need 151 00:08:14,929 --> 00:08:16,800 to get diapers and we need to finish safe-proofing 152 00:08:16,974 --> 00:08:18,367 the house cause we're not done with that yet, but... 153 00:08:18,541 --> 00:08:21,979 - I say you need Jesus more than all that stuff. 154 00:08:22,153 --> 00:08:24,460 Do you go to church? 155 00:08:24,634 --> 00:08:25,853 - I--I did when I was younger but, you know, 156 00:08:26,027 --> 00:08:26,767 it's been a while. 157 00:08:26,941 --> 00:08:28,943 - Tell you what. 158 00:08:29,117 --> 00:08:30,118 Tell your husband that you're new friend Teresa 159 00:08:30,292 --> 00:08:32,773 invited you to church. 160 00:08:32,947 --> 00:08:35,340 Give me a call and tell me what he says. 161 00:08:35,515 --> 00:08:39,693 - Yeah. Um, okay. - All right. 162 00:08:39,867 --> 00:08:42,043 Whispering: Teresa. 163 00:08:42,217 --> 00:08:44,001 - Why don't you finish getting cleaned up and take your time 164 00:08:44,175 --> 00:08:46,830 and you better not forget to call me. 165 00:08:47,004 --> 00:08:48,832 - Bye. - Bye. 166 00:08:49,006 --> 00:08:58,886 [ music ] 167 00:09:03,934 --> 00:09:05,806 Mother: You have to read it. You have-- 168 00:09:05,980 --> 00:09:07,459 - I'm not gonna read it and you can't make me! 169 00:09:07,634 --> 00:09:09,287 - Christopher! I'm going to count to three. 170 00:09:09,461 --> 00:09:10,767 And if you don't quit your whining 171 00:09:10,941 --> 00:09:12,464 I'm gonna leave you here at the library. 172 00:09:12,639 --> 00:09:13,944 Christopher: Stop pulling my arm! 173 00:09:14,118 --> 00:09:15,467 Mother: That's one. 174 00:09:15,642 --> 00:09:18,296 - No it's not. - Yes it is. 175 00:09:18,470 --> 00:09:22,562 Woman: Did you get the books? 176 00:09:22,736 --> 00:09:24,781 Your first? - Yeah. 177 00:09:24,955 --> 00:09:26,914 - Exciting. 178 00:09:27,088 --> 00:09:28,655 - You make it look so easy. 179 00:09:28,829 --> 00:09:31,745 [ laughs ] - Yeah, well, it isn't. James? 180 00:09:31,919 --> 00:09:34,008 Grab your sister's hand, stop by the front door please. 181 00:09:34,182 --> 00:09:35,183 But it's worth it. 182 00:09:35,357 --> 00:09:37,315 God gives us grace and strength, 183 00:09:37,489 --> 00:09:38,708 and each child is a blessing. 184 00:09:38,882 --> 00:09:43,626 You enjoy yours. - Thank you. I will. 185 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:47,238 - All right, kids. Inside voices. 186 00:09:47,412 --> 00:09:55,377 [ music ] 187 00:09:55,551 --> 00:09:59,860 - So, I feel like you got enough diapers for THREE babies. 188 00:10:00,034 --> 00:10:01,122 Is there something you're not telling me right now? 189 00:10:01,296 --> 00:10:02,384 - No. - No? Okay. 190 00:10:02,558 --> 00:10:04,299 - We just have to be prepared. 191 00:10:04,473 --> 00:10:06,344 This is a living human being we're having here. 192 00:10:06,518 --> 00:10:08,433 - Yeah. It's a--it's a baby. 193 00:10:08,608 --> 00:10:10,131 You know, we're not the first people to be parents. 194 00:10:10,305 --> 00:10:13,308 The thing eats and sleeps and then pees and poops 195 00:10:13,482 --> 00:10:16,398 in the first year and that's about it, right? 196 00:10:16,572 --> 00:10:18,922 We got this thing outnumbered. It's like basketball. Right? 197 00:10:19,096 --> 00:10:20,968 There's two of us, we're big people, two grown-ups 198 00:10:21,142 --> 00:10:22,143 against one little bitty baby. 199 00:10:22,317 --> 00:10:32,283 We got this. 200 00:10:36,723 --> 00:10:38,681 - Does it not scare you at all to be a parent? 201 00:10:38,855 --> 00:10:43,120 - Nope. Not really. 202 00:10:43,294 --> 00:10:45,383 Okay, maybe a little bit. 203 00:10:45,557 --> 00:10:46,646 But I figure it will just come naturally. You know? 204 00:10:46,820 --> 00:10:49,039 We'll roll with it. 205 00:10:49,213 --> 00:10:51,825 [ sighs ] - I just don't wanna turn out like my mom. 206 00:10:51,999 --> 00:10:53,391 What if I screw up my kid? 207 00:10:53,565 --> 00:10:55,437 - You are not your mom. 208 00:10:55,611 --> 00:11:00,007 You never will be, and besides, I like how you turned out. 209 00:11:00,181 --> 00:11:03,010 - [ laughs ] Yeah, 20 and pregnant? 210 00:11:03,184 --> 00:11:05,012 Not sure how many people would agree with you on how I turned out. 211 00:11:05,186 --> 00:11:07,449 Besides, doesn't everybody say they're not going to do 212 00:11:07,623 --> 00:11:12,410 what their parents did and then they turn out just like them? 213 00:11:12,584 --> 00:11:14,761 - Ali, moms have been raising babies for centuries 214 00:11:14,935 --> 00:11:16,501 and you have all these books you've checked out, 215 00:11:16,676 --> 00:11:18,286 all the magazines that you've bought 216 00:11:18,460 --> 00:11:20,810 and the horrible talk shows you've been watching. 217 00:11:20,984 --> 00:11:24,161 - Hey. - We'll figure it out. 218 00:11:24,335 --> 00:11:26,816 Okay? And listen, worst case, if we got questions 219 00:11:26,990 --> 00:11:28,862 we find somebody who has the answers. 220 00:11:29,036 --> 00:11:31,691 - Yeah, a nurse who was doing the ultrasound today, 221 00:11:31,865 --> 00:11:35,042 she's a mom of two and she was--she was awesome. 222 00:11:35,216 --> 00:11:36,739 She gave me her number. 223 00:11:36,913 --> 00:11:38,393 - See? Great. Call her. Take her to coffee, 224 00:11:38,567 --> 00:11:40,308 pick her brain. 225 00:11:40,482 --> 00:11:44,965 - She invited us to, uh, go to church. 226 00:11:45,139 --> 00:11:46,880 - Hunh. 227 00:11:47,054 --> 00:11:49,012 - I mean, some churches have mommy groups that 228 00:11:49,186 --> 00:11:54,975 women can go to, or like a Mommy's Day Out program 229 00:11:55,149 --> 00:11:56,977 It--it might--it might be a really good way to-- 230 00:11:57,151 --> 00:11:59,022 to get some help. 231 00:11:59,196 --> 00:12:01,285 - Does it start early on Sundays, cause you know 232 00:12:01,459 --> 00:12:03,157 I like to sleep in. 233 00:12:03,331 --> 00:12:04,724 - That's not all you like to do on Sunday mornings. 234 00:12:04,898 --> 00:12:06,334 [ laughs ] - Hey, look, I'm not the onl- 235 00:12:06,508 --> 00:12:08,075 - Anyways, your days of sleeping in are coming 236 00:12:08,249 --> 00:12:13,645 to an abrupt halt, mister. 237 00:12:13,820 --> 00:12:18,085 I can't do this alone. 238 00:12:18,259 --> 00:12:19,216 I really think it might be a good idea 239 00:12:19,390 --> 00:12:21,001 if we start going. 240 00:12:21,175 --> 00:12:23,655 [ music ] 241 00:12:23,830 --> 00:12:27,659 - Okay. - Thank you, sweetheart. 242 00:12:27,834 --> 00:12:29,836 - I do have to finish this crib, otherwise this kid's 243 00:12:30,010 --> 00:12:32,099 not gonna have a place to sleep. 244 00:12:32,273 --> 00:12:33,143 - It looks like you're pretty much done to me. 245 00:12:33,317 --> 00:12:36,930 - Yeah, does it? - Mm-hm. 246 00:12:37,104 --> 00:12:40,107 [ music ] Alice: Hey, I need you to install the car seat... 247 00:12:40,281 --> 00:12:50,204 [ music ] 248 00:12:53,424 --> 00:13:01,345 - [ grunting ] - You all right? 249 00:13:01,519 --> 00:13:03,304 All right, take some breaths and let's push it out. 250 00:13:03,478 --> 00:13:07,395 - Push, push... Male Doctor: Push hard! Push hard! 251 00:13:07,569 --> 00:13:09,310 You got it! That's it. 252 00:13:09,484 --> 00:13:12,052 [ baby crying ] 253 00:13:30,461 --> 00:13:33,769 [ soft breathing ] 254 00:13:33,943 --> 00:13:38,078 - Ronnie. 255 00:13:38,252 --> 00:13:47,087 [ music ] 256 00:13:47,261 --> 00:13:51,700 Charlie: He's beautiful. 257 00:13:51,874 --> 00:14:01,753 [ music fades ] 258 00:14:02,319 --> 00:14:12,199 [ music ] 259 00:14:16,638 --> 00:14:19,162 - Hey, Christie, I'm here to pick up Kate, uh, Morris. 260 00:14:19,336 --> 00:14:22,774 - Um, I'm afraid--Katie was a little out of hand 261 00:14:22,949 --> 00:14:25,603 this morning. [ kids crying ] 262 00:14:25,777 --> 00:14:28,041 She hit two of the other children with wooden blocks. 263 00:14:28,215 --> 00:14:30,739 [ crying ] 264 00:14:30,913 --> 00:14:33,089 - I'm so sorry. 265 00:14:33,263 --> 00:14:36,484 - We tried to get her to calm down but she doesn't seem 266 00:14:36,658 --> 00:14:38,747 to understand that you cannot throw wooden blocks 267 00:14:38,921 --> 00:14:41,228 at other people, including me. 268 00:14:41,402 --> 00:14:43,317 So I thought you might want to address that. 269 00:14:43,491 --> 00:14:45,275 - Of course. Yeah. 270 00:14:45,449 --> 00:14:48,191 - You know our policy is if kids keep hitting 271 00:14:48,365 --> 00:14:51,586 then we have to have a parent stay with them 272 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:53,980 during the service or else the child has to sit 273 00:14:54,154 --> 00:14:55,851 with mom and dad in, um, the big church 274 00:14:56,025 --> 00:14:57,026 until their next birthday. 275 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:59,463 - I completely understand. 276 00:14:59,637 --> 00:15:04,381 Um, I'll talk with my husband and--it won't happen again. 277 00:15:04,555 --> 00:15:05,817 - Thank you. 278 00:15:05,992 --> 00:15:08,690 [ music ] [ child crying ] 279 00:15:08,864 --> 00:15:12,346 Boy: Mommy, mommy, I want to be an assassin when I grow up. 280 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:16,828 And then, I'm not gonna have a name so the police can't fid me, 281 00:15:17,003 --> 00:15:18,961 and then I'm gonna hack into the computer 282 00:15:19,135 --> 00:15:21,659 and I'm gonna steal all the government's secret plans, 283 00:15:21,833 --> 00:15:24,010 and then I'm gonna blow up a Death Star, 284 00:15:24,184 --> 00:15:27,317 and then [ child crying ] destroy all the monsters in e ocean. 285 00:15:27,491 --> 00:15:29,189 Hey, mommy, what do you want for your birthday? 286 00:15:29,363 --> 00:15:30,755 - For you to not be a complete screw-up 287 00:15:30,930 --> 00:15:33,497 for one day, Ronnie! 288 00:15:33,671 --> 00:15:35,978 [ child crying ] 289 00:15:36,152 --> 00:15:43,377 [ somber music ] 290 00:15:43,551 --> 00:15:46,858 [ door slams ] 291 00:15:47,033 --> 00:15:48,251 - Ali, you okay? [ crying ] 292 00:15:48,425 --> 00:15:52,342 Alice: I just need a minute. 293 00:15:52,516 --> 00:15:54,692 - Okay, hey, buddy. How you doing? 294 00:15:54,866 --> 00:15:56,694 Kate's got poop on her back. 295 00:15:56,868 --> 00:15:58,609 Alice: Yeah, well when is she not covered in poop? 296 00:15:58,783 --> 00:16:00,481 - Daddy. Alice: Can you please just change her 297 00:16:00,655 --> 00:16:02,613 so I can have five minutes alone. 298 00:16:02,787 --> 00:16:03,788 Katie: Momma! - Okay. 299 00:16:03,963 --> 00:16:05,268 Let's give mommy a second. 300 00:16:05,442 --> 00:16:07,357 Let me go change her real quick, okay? 301 00:16:07,531 --> 00:16:10,186 Then I'll come check-- oh, that's, that's awful. 302 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:12,145 Katie: Momma! 303 00:16:12,319 --> 00:16:18,586 [ music ] [ Charlie groaning ] 304 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:21,502 Wipes... where... 305 00:16:21,676 --> 00:16:24,592 [ Katie whimpering ] 306 00:16:24,766 --> 00:16:26,420 Oh, Kate. 307 00:16:26,594 --> 00:16:30,032 Stop. Stop moving. You've done enough. 308 00:16:30,206 --> 00:16:31,077 - Hey. I'll do it. I'll do it. 309 00:16:31,251 --> 00:16:33,340 - I got this. 310 00:16:33,514 --> 00:16:34,994 - I don't want you changing when you're upset. 311 00:16:35,168 --> 00:16:36,473 - Yeah, well you locked yourself in the bathroom 312 00:16:36,647 --> 00:16:38,214 and said you needed help so I'm helping. 313 00:16:38,388 --> 00:16:39,781 - I just needed a minute. I can do my job, thank you. 314 00:16:39,955 --> 00:16:40,869 [ crying ] 315 00:16:41,043 --> 00:16:43,567 Hey. 316 00:16:43,741 --> 00:16:45,352 Hey, Teresa and Kenneth are gonna be here at 6:30. 317 00:16:45,526 --> 00:16:47,310 How long do burgers take? 318 00:16:47,484 --> 00:16:49,095 - [softly] Perfect night for company 319 00:16:49,269 --> 00:16:50,531 [louder] Like 30 minutes, I'll get into it. 320 00:16:50,705 --> 00:16:52,054 Hey, one more thing. 321 00:16:52,228 --> 00:16:54,883 Can you come back here for a minute? 322 00:16:55,057 --> 00:16:56,580 - Sure. 323 00:16:56,754 --> 00:16:58,495 Tonight we need to talk about Kate. 324 00:16:58,669 --> 00:17:01,411 She was--I guess hitting other kids in church yesterday 325 00:17:01,585 --> 00:17:05,372 and they said that they might actually have to kick her out of nursery. 326 00:17:05,546 --> 00:17:08,157 - Kick her out of nursery? That's crazy. She's two. 327 00:17:08,331 --> 00:17:09,767 That's what 2-year-olds do-- - Yeah well, let's just talk about it tonight 328 00:17:09,941 --> 00:17:12,814 after they have left. 329 00:17:12,988 --> 00:17:13,945 Kate and Ronnie have been running the house lately 330 00:17:14,120 --> 00:17:17,210 and it is--it is wearing me out. 331 00:17:17,384 --> 00:17:19,212 - I'm sure it's a phase. She'll grow out of it. 332 00:17:19,386 --> 00:17:20,474 Talk to Teresa about it. 333 00:17:20,648 --> 00:17:22,780 - I don't think it's a phase. 334 00:17:22,954 --> 00:17:25,218 The other kids are not hitting each other. 335 00:17:25,392 --> 00:17:27,524 We are her parents. We're supposed to fix things like this. 336 00:17:27,698 --> 00:17:30,136 I don't want to talk to Teresa. I want to talk to you about it. 337 00:17:30,310 --> 00:17:31,876 I want to talk to my husband. 338 00:17:32,051 --> 00:17:33,965 I want to hear your ideas. 339 00:17:34,140 --> 00:17:36,620 I cannot do everything by myself. 340 00:17:36,794 --> 00:17:39,101 - Okay, we'll talk about it. 341 00:17:39,275 --> 00:17:48,937 - Great. I'm so glad you're interested in your kids' lives. 342 00:17:56,771 --> 00:17:59,121 - Quiet out here. 343 00:17:59,295 --> 00:18:00,601 - Yeah, I know--kinda nice, isn't it? 344 00:18:00,775 --> 00:18:03,038 - Heh, tell me about it. 345 00:18:03,212 --> 00:18:06,476 With three under six, the sound of nothing can be pretty sweet. 346 00:18:06,650 --> 00:18:09,000 - I honestly don't know how you guys do it. 347 00:18:09,175 --> 00:18:12,700 Ronnie and Kate are almost too much for Ali as it is. 348 00:18:12,874 --> 00:18:14,005 - What about you? 349 00:18:14,180 --> 00:18:16,747 - Oh, I'm fine with two. 350 00:18:16,921 --> 00:18:19,315 - No, I'm talking about the stress. 351 00:18:19,489 --> 00:18:20,534 Does it get to you? 352 00:18:20,708 --> 00:18:23,493 - I just tune it out. 353 00:18:23,667 --> 00:18:26,801 I know, man, but hey, I work and come home--I gotta unwind. 354 00:18:26,975 --> 00:18:28,890 - You don't think Alice is tired, too? 355 00:18:29,064 --> 00:18:31,022 - I'm sure she is, but I don't know, quick trips--I just-- 356 00:18:31,197 --> 00:18:33,155 I don't know, it takes it outta me, man. 357 00:18:33,329 --> 00:18:35,679 - Well look, man, I get it, all right? 358 00:18:35,853 --> 00:18:36,854 When it comes to raising kids, the days are long 359 00:18:37,028 --> 00:18:39,292 but the years are short. 360 00:18:39,466 --> 00:18:42,904 - Not short enough, if you ask me. 361 00:18:43,078 --> 00:18:45,385 - You remember the challenge that Pastor Mark gave us on Sunday? 362 00:18:45,559 --> 00:18:47,517 - Nah, I was outta town. - You were outta town. 363 00:18:47,691 --> 00:18:50,085 Well, look--he, uh, quoted some guy that said, 364 00:18:50,259 --> 00:18:52,740 "Children are the living messages that we send forth 365 00:18:52,914 --> 00:18:56,657 to a time that we will not see." 366 00:18:56,831 --> 00:18:58,833 - Hm. 367 00:18:59,007 --> 00:19:01,140 - You should get the tape. 368 00:19:01,314 --> 00:19:05,709 He talks about giving a vision for what God might have for your kids. 369 00:19:05,883 --> 00:19:08,059 Something more than hoping that they grow up happy and healthy 370 00:19:08,234 --> 00:19:09,713 and get a good job and get married. 371 00:19:09,887 --> 00:19:14,240 - Ooh--I think I burned these. 372 00:19:14,414 --> 00:19:16,938 Yeah, I hear you, man. 373 00:19:17,112 --> 00:19:20,724 - It got me to realize that... our kids aren't the problem. 374 00:19:20,898 --> 00:19:23,901 It's us, man. 375 00:19:24,075 --> 00:19:25,686 Yeah, uh, you and me-- that's right. 376 00:19:25,860 --> 00:19:28,036 - I'm the problem? 377 00:19:28,210 --> 00:19:29,603 - Remember that verse that says, 378 00:19:29,777 --> 00:19:32,606 "Without a vision, the people will perish?" 379 00:19:32,780 --> 00:19:34,521 - Can't say that I do. 380 00:19:34,695 --> 00:19:37,915 - Well, it applies to the family as well. 381 00:19:38,089 --> 00:19:41,092 You can't run around living life one day at a time. 382 00:19:41,267 --> 00:19:44,183 You gotta know where you're going, and then lead. 383 00:19:44,357 --> 00:19:47,708 [ music ] 384 00:19:47,882 --> 00:19:49,884 - All right. 385 00:19:50,058 --> 00:19:52,103 - All right. 386 00:19:52,278 --> 00:19:53,583 - Gimme that ball. 387 00:19:53,757 --> 00:19:55,759 - Unh. 388 00:19:55,933 --> 00:19:58,458 - Literally pulls up from half-court and he makes it, 389 00:19:58,632 --> 00:19:59,937 just actually, this is something I do all the time. 390 00:20:00,111 --> 00:20:01,548 It was ridiculous. 391 00:20:01,722 --> 00:20:02,984 - I saw the replay of that on the news. 392 00:20:03,158 --> 00:20:04,638 - Did you? - It was unbelievable. 393 00:20:04,812 --> 00:20:07,031 It was, it was crazy. - Excuse me--yes, son? 394 00:20:07,206 --> 00:20:13,124 - I finished my food. Can I get a popsicle? 395 00:20:13,299 --> 00:20:15,388 - Ms. Alice, John David has a question for you. 396 00:20:15,562 --> 00:20:16,606 - Yes, John David? 397 00:20:16,780 --> 00:20:19,087 - May I please get popsicles? 398 00:20:19,261 --> 00:20:20,958 - Of course you can. 399 00:20:21,132 --> 00:20:22,003 They're in the freezer, on the bottom shelf. 400 00:20:22,177 --> 00:20:25,833 [ Kate babbling ] 401 00:20:26,007 --> 00:20:27,965 Your little man has become quite the gentleman. 402 00:20:28,139 --> 00:20:30,185 - I want a popsicle too. 403 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:31,969 - You can have one when all of your food's gone, buddy. 404 00:20:32,143 --> 00:20:34,102 - But I can't eat it, it's too much food. 405 00:20:34,276 --> 00:20:36,365 I want a popsicle like John David. 406 00:20:36,539 --> 00:20:38,193 - Son, your mother gave you an answer. 407 00:20:38,367 --> 00:20:41,283 You cannot have dessert until you finish your food. 408 00:20:41,457 --> 00:20:43,329 Sit down, finish your food. 409 00:20:43,503 --> 00:20:45,940 Do you--mind if I try something? 410 00:20:46,114 --> 00:20:50,597 - Go ahead. 411 00:20:50,771 --> 00:20:53,426 - Now, Ronnie, you know, your plate has to be empty 412 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,993 before you go get dessert, right? 413 00:20:56,167 --> 00:21:06,134 Right? 414 00:21:08,223 --> 00:21:09,964 - It looks like your plate's all empty, hon. 415 00:21:10,138 --> 00:21:13,576 I guess that means you get dessert. 416 00:21:13,750 --> 00:21:15,535 - Can I get a popsicle now? 417 00:21:15,709 --> 00:21:23,586 - Yes, you may. Thank you for asking. 418 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:24,805 Kenneth: My dad did that with me once. 419 00:21:24,979 --> 00:21:26,633 I never forgot it. 420 00:21:26,807 --> 00:21:30,637 "That's the picture of grace," he would say. 421 00:21:30,811 --> 00:21:32,813 Getting what you don't deserve because somebody else 422 00:21:32,987 --> 00:21:37,034 did what you should have done for you. 423 00:21:37,208 --> 00:21:39,080 Charlie: You just wanted to eat more hamburger, man. 424 00:21:39,254 --> 00:21:39,950 Don't be--don't get all spiritual on me over there. 425 00:21:40,124 --> 00:21:41,909 [ laughs ] 426 00:21:42,083 --> 00:21:43,563 - You just remember that the next time 427 00:21:43,737 --> 00:21:45,173 you're making these hamburgers out there. 428 00:21:45,347 --> 00:21:47,131 - We got more if you need it. [ laughter ] 429 00:21:47,306 --> 00:21:49,830 You don't have to eat my kid's food all the time. 430 00:21:50,004 --> 00:21:51,440 Bring him a popsicle. [ laughter ] 431 00:21:51,614 --> 00:21:58,491 Steal my kid's hamburger. 432 00:21:58,665 --> 00:22:00,057 - Just five more minutes and I'll help you with those dishes. 433 00:22:00,231 --> 00:22:02,233 - Oh, no, no, no, no. You sit and rest. 434 00:22:02,408 --> 00:22:04,061 - No, I can't have you doing all that extra-- 435 00:22:04,235 --> 00:22:06,847 - Why do you wanna sit-- - Did you hear us talking? 436 00:22:07,021 --> 00:22:08,152 - Excuse me, momma. 437 00:22:08,327 --> 00:22:09,763 - You're excused. 438 00:22:09,937 --> 00:22:11,721 - Ronnie wants to know can I-- 439 00:22:11,895 --> 00:22:14,028 - May I-- - May I play Frogger with him? 440 00:22:14,202 --> 00:22:17,292 - What's that? 441 00:22:17,466 --> 00:22:19,555 - Oh, it's just this little video game with frogs trying to, like, cross the road. 442 00:22:19,729 --> 00:22:21,122 It's--it's totally harmless. 443 00:22:21,296 --> 00:22:23,429 - Yes, you can play Froggy with Ronnie. 444 00:22:23,603 --> 00:22:27,346 [ laughs ] - It's "Frogger," Mommy. 445 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,086 - Well, whatever it's called, yes, you can play 446 00:22:29,260 --> 00:22:31,132 for about 10 minutes, and then we gotta go. 447 00:22:31,306 --> 00:22:34,265 - Thank you. My mom said I can play! 448 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:38,052 - [ laughter ] Kids. 449 00:22:38,226 --> 00:22:40,054 - Hey, I'm sorry about Ronnie tonight. 450 00:22:40,228 --> 00:22:42,535 - What for? 451 00:22:42,709 --> 00:22:46,713 - His manners, or his lack of manners, I should say. 452 00:22:46,887 --> 00:22:50,020 - Well, how does he normally act? 453 00:22:50,194 --> 00:22:52,414 - I don't know, I guess--I guess I just don't notice it, 454 00:22:52,588 --> 00:22:54,329 you know, when it's just him and Kate. 455 00:22:54,503 --> 00:22:57,463 But I--I don't know why he just seems to always decide 456 00:22:57,637 --> 00:22:58,986 to act up whenever we have company around. 457 00:22:59,160 --> 00:22:59,856 - John David used to be just the same. 458 00:23:00,030 --> 00:23:01,771 - Really? 459 00:23:01,945 --> 00:23:03,556 - Mm-hmm. It took us weeks to get him to learn 460 00:23:03,730 --> 00:23:05,645 basic table manners. 461 00:23:05,819 --> 00:23:07,081 - Because there ain't no kid gonna say things like 462 00:23:07,255 --> 00:23:08,169 "please" and "thank you" on their own. 463 00:23:08,343 --> 00:23:10,258 [ laughs ] 464 00:23:10,432 --> 00:23:11,999 - Yeah, well, you're gonna have to, uh, lend me 465 00:23:12,173 --> 00:23:14,262 whatever book you used to train him. 466 00:23:14,436 --> 00:23:16,482 - Oh, you already got it, honey--and it's all in there. 467 00:23:16,656 --> 00:23:18,658 In The Bible. 468 00:23:18,832 --> 00:23:22,357 - Oh, well, I guess I missed the chapter on manners. 469 00:23:22,531 --> 00:23:23,402 - Well, how much time do you spend reading Proverbs 470 00:23:23,576 --> 00:23:26,143 or memorizing verses? 471 00:23:26,317 --> 00:23:29,103 I mean; I have all my kids learn Proverbs 23:13-14 472 00:23:29,277 --> 00:23:31,235 as soon as they old enough to talk. 473 00:23:31,410 --> 00:23:34,108 "Do not withhold discipline from your children." 474 00:23:34,282 --> 00:23:37,067 "Whom the Lord loves, he disciplines." 475 00:23:37,241 --> 00:23:39,418 - Yeah, but I just--I don't know that I can intentionally hurt 476 00:23:39,592 --> 00:23:41,420 my child, though? 477 00:23:41,594 --> 00:23:42,899 - Alice, listen--some of the greatest lessons in life 478 00:23:43,073 --> 00:23:45,293 come amidst pain. 479 00:23:45,467 --> 00:23:49,689 If there's no sting, then what you get is a spoiled child. 480 00:23:49,863 --> 00:23:56,173 And I know you don't want that. 481 00:23:56,347 --> 00:24:06,227 [video game gun fire] 482 00:24:10,449 --> 00:24:13,843 - Hon, your son is watching you play that game. 483 00:24:14,017 --> 00:24:16,716 - Can you take him in the other room with you? 484 00:24:16,890 --> 00:24:18,587 - I have--I have to run a bath for Kate. 485 00:24:18,761 --> 00:24:21,285 Can you not just pause your game and please deal with him? 486 00:24:21,460 --> 00:24:23,679 - Hey, bro, why don't you go put your pajamas on 487 00:24:23,853 --> 00:24:25,202 and brush your teeth, and I'll-- I'll come pray with you in a minute, okay? 488 00:24:25,376 --> 00:24:27,509 - But why? 489 00:24:27,683 --> 00:24:29,163 - Because it's time to go to bed. 490 00:24:29,337 --> 00:24:31,252 Got it--got him. 491 00:24:31,426 --> 00:24:34,124 - But why can't I just watch for a few more minutes? 492 00:24:34,298 --> 00:24:36,083 - Buddy, this is a grown-up game, okay? 493 00:24:36,257 --> 00:24:37,388 I told you that before. 494 00:24:37,563 --> 00:24:38,868 Now please, you gotta go to bed. 495 00:24:39,042 --> 00:24:40,696 - Why? 496 00:24:40,870 --> 00:24:44,134 - [ loudly ] Son, go to bed, now, please. 497 00:24:44,308 --> 00:24:46,310 [ crying ] 498 00:24:46,485 --> 00:24:50,967 - Honey. Charlie, I cannot believe you. 499 00:24:51,141 --> 00:25:00,934 Come on. [ video game gun fire ] 500 00:25:01,804 --> 00:25:09,551 [ music ] 501 00:25:09,725 --> 00:25:18,821 [ drops controller ] 502 00:25:18,995 --> 00:25:22,564 - I'm sure that you both realize that Ronnie's very bright. 503 00:25:22,738 --> 00:25:26,176 We've been tracking his test scores over the past four years, 504 00:25:26,350 --> 00:25:29,963 and he's in the 97th percentile in reading and language. 505 00:25:30,137 --> 00:25:32,705 He's in the 99th percentile in math, 506 00:25:32,879 --> 00:25:35,534 he's in the 99th percentile in science. 507 00:25:35,708 --> 00:25:37,753 So even though Ronnie's a freshman, we would like 508 00:25:37,927 --> 00:25:40,930 to encourage you to have him start taking the SAT now, 509 00:25:41,104 --> 00:25:43,454 and once a year, every year. 510 00:25:43,629 --> 00:25:46,719 I don't wanna create any false expectations, but students 511 00:25:46,893 --> 00:25:49,591 with these kinds of early scores often go on 512 00:25:49,765 --> 00:25:52,638 to become National Merit Scholars. 513 00:25:52,812 --> 00:25:56,772 I'd imagine he will have his pick of college options, 514 00:25:56,946 --> 00:25:58,992 and many of those options will likely come with some very 515 00:25:59,166 --> 00:26:02,299 generous scholarships attached. 516 00:26:02,473 --> 00:26:03,736 You both should be very proud. 517 00:26:03,910 --> 00:26:05,433 - Ninety-ninth percentile. 518 00:26:05,607 --> 00:26:07,957 Did you have any idea he was that smart? 519 00:26:08,131 --> 00:26:10,003 - I knew he got good grades and didn't have to work at it very hard. 520 00:26:10,177 --> 00:26:12,005 - Whew. - What do you think? 521 00:26:12,179 --> 00:26:14,921 Free college? I--yeah, I'm into it. 522 00:26:15,095 --> 00:26:16,052 - You know how he's been skipping youth group, 523 00:26:16,226 --> 00:26:17,706 saying that he needed to study? 524 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,490 This whole time I thought he was making excuses 525 00:26:19,665 --> 00:26:22,276 because it's boring and the--the leaders tell him- 526 00:26:22,450 --> 00:26:23,843 treat him like he's in sixth grade. 527 00:26:24,017 --> 00:26:25,279 But he's actually been studying. 528 00:26:25,453 --> 00:26:26,802 Like, he's really smart. 529 00:26:26,976 --> 00:26:29,936 - Yeah. He's "free college" smart. 530 00:26:30,110 --> 00:26:31,590 I'm not sure we'll get that lucky with Kate-- 531 00:26:31,764 --> 00:26:33,243 or Josh or Faith. 532 00:26:33,417 --> 00:26:35,376 - See you at home. - Love you. 533 00:26:35,550 --> 00:26:44,167 [ music ] 534 00:26:44,341 --> 00:26:47,736 [ clattering ] 535 00:26:47,910 --> 00:26:50,086 - What are you doing with my mastazord set? 536 00:26:50,260 --> 00:26:52,959 - Mom said I could use the Legos to build a fort for Freckle. 537 00:26:53,133 --> 00:26:54,917 - That doesn't mean you take apart a mastazord 538 00:26:55,091 --> 00:26:56,658 to build some stupid fort. 539 00:26:56,832 --> 00:26:59,530 - It's not stupid, and Mom said I could. 540 00:26:59,705 --> 00:27:01,054 - She didn't say that. Now give it back. 541 00:27:01,228 --> 00:27:03,926 - Mom said I could play with it. 542 00:27:04,100 --> 00:27:05,188 - She's not your real mom anyway. 543 00:27:05,362 --> 00:27:07,060 - Yes, she is. 544 00:27:07,234 --> 00:27:08,888 - Nuh-uh--your real mom couldn't handle you. 545 00:27:09,062 --> 00:27:10,759 - That's not true! 546 00:27:10,933 --> 00:27:12,761 - That's what mom told me when we got you. 547 00:27:12,935 --> 00:27:15,895 - She did not! - Uh-huh. 548 00:27:16,069 --> 00:27:20,464 - Here, take your stupid Legos. They're stupid anyway! 549 00:27:20,639 --> 00:27:26,514 Mom! 550 00:27:26,688 --> 00:27:28,342 [ ring tone ] 551 00:27:28,516 --> 00:27:34,478 [ clattering ] 552 00:27:34,653 --> 00:27:37,090 - Hey. You on your way? 553 00:27:37,264 --> 00:27:39,745 - No, I'm not. I'm still at the office. 554 00:27:39,919 --> 00:27:41,616 Hey, how was your day? 555 00:27:41,790 --> 00:27:44,967 - How late? 556 00:27:45,141 --> 00:27:47,187 How was your day is code for "I'm going to be late," 557 00:27:47,361 --> 00:27:49,102 so just tell me how late. 558 00:27:49,276 --> 00:27:52,714 - Okay. Well, I--I do have another couple hours of work 559 00:27:52,888 --> 00:27:53,889 to do on the Wilson project, and then I-- 560 00:27:54,063 --> 00:27:54,847 I should be able to get free. 561 00:27:55,021 --> 00:27:56,892 - Charlie, really? 562 00:27:57,066 --> 00:27:59,155 - Listen, I know, but, uh, if I work hard, I can get it done 563 00:27:59,329 --> 00:28:01,854 by Friday and then no more late nights for a while. 564 00:28:02,028 --> 00:28:03,594 - Yeah, well, I think this is, what, 565 00:28:03,769 --> 00:28:07,250 the 10th project you've said that on now. 566 00:28:07,424 --> 00:28:08,599 - Hey, are you okay? 567 00:28:08,774 --> 00:28:13,430 - No. No, not really. 568 00:28:13,604 --> 00:28:14,997 - Josh and Faith had a big fight today, and Josh 569 00:28:15,171 --> 00:28:17,217 said some really horrible things to her. 570 00:28:17,391 --> 00:28:19,828 - Like what? 571 00:28:20,002 --> 00:28:22,918 - Like that I'm not her real mom. 572 00:28:23,092 --> 00:28:25,573 She's not little anymore, and I--and I don't know 573 00:28:25,747 --> 00:28:32,058 how to talk to her about her mom and why she ultimately gave her up. 574 00:28:32,232 --> 00:28:33,842 I need you to be home before Josh goes to bed, 575 00:28:34,016 --> 00:28:36,018 so you can talk with him. 576 00:28:36,192 --> 00:28:38,804 He ignores me. He needs to hear it from you. 577 00:28:38,978 --> 00:28:40,457 And I--and I don't know what to say to Faith either. 578 00:28:40,631 --> 00:28:44,418 So maybe we can do that together? 579 00:28:44,592 --> 00:28:47,377 - Yeah, okay--love you. [ typing ] 580 00:28:47,551 --> 00:28:51,468 [ music ] 581 00:28:51,642 --> 00:28:53,383 - Kids, dinner! 582 00:28:53,557 --> 00:28:55,690 - Is Dad home yet? 583 00:28:55,864 --> 00:28:58,345 - Um, that was--that was him on the phone. 584 00:28:58,519 --> 00:29:00,869 Um, he's--he's stuck on a project, so he's not 585 00:29:01,043 --> 00:29:03,002 gonna be back until late. 586 00:29:03,176 --> 00:29:05,700 - He was supposed to take me to the mall tonight. 587 00:29:05,874 --> 00:29:09,356 - Yeah, well, I don't think that's gonna happen, sweetie, I'm sorry. 588 00:29:09,530 --> 00:29:12,402 - Can I call Dad and see if we can go? 589 00:29:12,576 --> 00:29:15,971 - Yes, but, um, we need to eat dinner first. 590 00:29:16,145 --> 00:29:19,670 Please go get the others. Tell them that it's time to eat. 591 00:29:19,845 --> 00:29:29,202 Kate Yelling: Ronnie, Josh, Faith--dinner! 592 00:29:29,376 --> 00:29:32,858 - Laundry belongs in the bin, not next to the bin. 593 00:29:33,032 --> 00:29:35,643 [ sigh ] 594 00:29:35,817 --> 00:29:39,429 I seem to make babies faster than I can pick up their laundry. 595 00:29:39,603 --> 00:29:41,562 - How DO you make babies? 596 00:29:41,736 --> 00:29:44,217 - What? - What? 597 00:29:44,391 --> 00:29:45,958 - We're not talking about this. Go get your PJs on. 598 00:29:46,132 --> 00:29:47,829 - But I need to go potty. 599 00:29:48,003 --> 00:29:51,920 - Then go potty. 600 00:29:52,094 --> 00:29:56,446 [ knocking ] 601 00:29:56,620 --> 00:29:59,319 What you reading? 602 00:29:59,493 --> 00:30:01,060 Something for a class? 603 00:30:01,234 --> 00:30:05,499 - Nope, just for fun. 604 00:30:05,673 --> 00:30:08,458 Hey, on Saturday, um, I was planning on going to a concert 605 00:30:08,632 --> 00:30:09,416 downtown with some friends. 606 00:30:09,590 --> 00:30:11,113 - What show? 607 00:30:11,287 --> 00:30:13,899 - Uh, it's a band called Nihil Fit. 608 00:30:14,073 --> 00:30:15,596 - Are they Christian? - Kind of. 609 00:30:15,770 --> 00:30:18,251 Their band name is Latin for "Nothing Comes," 610 00:30:18,425 --> 00:30:20,035 and their music has some spiritual themes. 611 00:30:20,209 --> 00:30:22,211 - Okay. Who would you be going with? 612 00:30:22,385 --> 00:30:23,865 - I don't think you know them--Justin Booth 613 00:30:24,039 --> 00:30:26,215 and Franklin Hauser? 614 00:30:26,389 --> 00:30:29,175 They're juniors, so they can give me a ride to the show. 615 00:30:29,349 --> 00:30:32,134 - I think that should be fine, but let me just-- 616 00:30:32,308 --> 00:30:33,744 let me just talk with your dad before I let you know, okay? 617 00:30:33,919 --> 00:30:35,442 - Okay. 618 00:30:35,616 --> 00:30:37,966 - Night. - Goodnight. 619 00:30:38,140 --> 00:30:43,667 [ music ] [ phone ringing ] 620 00:30:43,842 --> 00:30:49,108 - Hi, Daddy, it's Katiebug. 621 00:30:49,282 --> 00:30:50,936 It's okay. 622 00:30:51,110 --> 00:30:56,071 I know you have really important things to do. 623 00:30:56,245 --> 00:31:00,554 I know the fair is Saturday. Do you think we could go? 624 00:31:00,728 --> 00:31:04,601 Thanks, Daddy. 625 00:31:04,775 --> 00:31:09,606 She's putting everyone to bed. 626 00:31:09,780 --> 00:31:15,917 I love you too, Daddy. 627 00:31:16,091 --> 00:31:17,963 - Okay, turn it off. - Okay. 628 00:31:18,137 --> 00:31:19,486 - Put it up. - Okay. 629 00:31:19,660 --> 00:31:21,531 - Now here you go. 630 00:31:21,705 --> 00:31:23,446 So I wanna talk to you about the things that you said 631 00:31:23,620 --> 00:31:24,795 to your little sister today. 632 00:31:24,970 --> 00:31:28,147 - I was just kidding with her. 633 00:31:28,321 --> 00:31:29,844 - Honey, it's--it's not kidding if you tell her 634 00:31:30,018 --> 00:31:32,368 that I'm not her real mommy. 635 00:31:32,542 --> 00:31:36,024 - Well, you're not. That's what you told me. 636 00:31:36,198 --> 00:31:40,507 - Well, I'm not her birth mom, yes, but I am her real mommy. 637 00:31:40,681 --> 00:31:43,205 God her planned for our family before she was even born. 638 00:31:43,379 --> 00:31:49,037 - Well, why didn't he put her in your tummy? 639 00:31:49,211 --> 00:31:53,520 God just has different plans sometimes, that's all. 640 00:31:53,694 --> 00:31:55,914 Look, sweetie, I know that having a sister can be very, 641 00:31:56,088 --> 00:31:59,047 very frustrating, but Faith needs you 642 00:31:59,221 --> 00:32:01,267 to be a good big brother. 643 00:32:01,441 --> 00:32:03,791 - Well, me and her don't even like the same things. 644 00:32:03,965 --> 00:32:06,185 - Well, that's okay. 645 00:32:06,359 --> 00:32:09,231 Maybe you can help her with things, you know? 646 00:32:09,405 --> 00:32:13,235 You could maybe teach her cursive, because you're really good at your letters. 647 00:32:13,409 --> 00:32:17,936 Or you could show her games on your iPad, or maybe show her 648 00:32:18,110 --> 00:32:20,939 pictures and tell her stories about our family. 649 00:32:21,113 --> 00:32:22,723 - I can show her the place in the garage Dad put 650 00:32:22,897 --> 00:32:25,117 a hole in the wall when we were moving in. 651 00:32:25,291 --> 00:32:27,032 - [ laughs ] Yes--yeah, you could--you could definitely 652 00:32:27,206 --> 00:32:30,252 show her that. 653 00:32:30,426 --> 00:32:31,166 You know what you need to do first, though? 654 00:32:31,340 --> 00:32:33,603 - What? 655 00:32:33,777 --> 00:32:35,779 - You need to tell her that you're very sorry and ask her 656 00:32:35,954 --> 00:32:39,044 to forgive you for the things you said. 657 00:32:39,218 --> 00:32:42,047 Do you remember how to do that? 658 00:32:42,221 --> 00:32:43,352 What do you say first? 659 00:32:43,526 --> 00:32:46,138 - I say "sorry." 660 00:32:46,312 --> 00:32:48,096 - You say, "I'm sorry for--" 661 00:32:48,270 --> 00:32:52,361 - I'm sorry for what I said. 662 00:32:52,535 --> 00:32:56,235 I was wrong. 663 00:32:56,409 --> 00:33:00,239 Will you-- - Will you please forgive me? 664 00:33:00,413 --> 00:33:01,588 And then what do you do? 665 00:33:01,762 --> 00:33:03,242 - Then I give her a hug. 666 00:33:03,416 --> 00:33:05,244 - [ laughs ] Perfect. 667 00:33:05,418 --> 00:33:06,897 We'll do that first thing in the morning, okay? 668 00:33:07,072 --> 00:33:09,378 - Okay. - Night, little buddy. 669 00:33:09,552 --> 00:33:15,428 - Good night, Mom. - Sleep good. 670 00:33:15,602 --> 00:33:17,256 Alice: Josh, your shoes are by the door, hurry up! 671 00:33:17,430 --> 00:33:19,258 Sweetie, we gotta leave in five minutes. 672 00:33:19,432 --> 00:33:20,868 I've got an appointment at the office at 9:00. 673 00:33:21,042 --> 00:33:22,435 Is your lunch almost packed? 674 00:33:22,609 --> 00:33:24,437 - [ distracted ] Almost. 675 00:33:24,611 --> 00:33:27,179 - Who are you texting this early in the morning? 676 00:33:27,353 --> 00:33:30,138 - It's a friend. - And her name is? 677 00:33:30,312 --> 00:33:35,970 - His name is Adam, Lauren's older brother. 678 00:33:36,144 --> 00:33:38,799 - Hey, Adam can wait five minutes until your lunch 679 00:33:38,973 --> 00:33:41,454 is packed and we are in the car. 680 00:33:41,628 --> 00:33:43,586 - Hey, hey. Morning, baby. 681 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,284 How you doing? 682 00:33:45,458 --> 00:33:47,068 Did you sleep good? Did you sleep good? 683 00:33:47,242 --> 00:33:49,723 Did you sleep good? [ laughter ] 684 00:33:49,897 --> 00:33:51,246 Hey, sweetheart. 685 00:33:51,420 --> 00:33:53,118 - Hi, Dad. - Hey, baby, I gotta run. 686 00:33:53,292 --> 00:33:54,728 Um, I know I said I'd pick up the kids later, 687 00:33:54,902 --> 00:33:55,381 but I'm--I'm probably gonna have to work late. 688 00:33:55,555 --> 00:33:57,513 - Babe-- 689 00:33:57,687 --> 00:33:59,167 I know. I'm finishing it, though, so this'll be 690 00:33:59,341 --> 00:34:00,951 the last time for a while. 691 00:34:01,126 --> 00:34:03,780 - Yeah, well, you said that last weekend. 692 00:34:03,954 --> 00:34:06,305 - I mean it today. 693 00:34:06,479 --> 00:34:07,523 - Okay. Well, just be off tomorrow. 694 00:34:07,697 --> 00:34:09,221 The girls are counting on you. 695 00:34:09,395 --> 00:34:12,224 - Oh--I wouldn't miss the fair with my girls. 696 00:34:12,398 --> 00:34:13,660 You excited? - Yeah! 697 00:34:13,834 --> 00:34:15,314 - Faith is coming? 698 00:34:15,488 --> 00:34:19,883 - Yeah--Dad and the girls at the fair. 699 00:34:20,058 --> 00:34:21,059 It's gonna be great. 700 00:34:21,233 --> 00:34:23,278 What do you think, Faith? 701 00:34:23,452 --> 00:34:24,627 You think we should get Kate to ride the teacups with us? 702 00:34:24,801 --> 00:34:26,325 - Yeah. 703 00:34:26,499 --> 00:34:27,804 - You up for-- - You know what, you guys 704 00:34:27,978 --> 00:34:30,024 can just go ride the teacups together. 705 00:34:30,198 --> 00:34:34,246 Um, I'm gonna just go with some friends from school. 706 00:34:34,420 --> 00:34:36,813 It's probably a better idea anyway. 707 00:34:36,987 --> 00:34:41,644 Mom, I'll be in the car. 708 00:34:41,818 --> 00:34:42,558 - What's that about? 709 00:34:42,732 --> 00:34:46,780 - Teacups? 710 00:34:46,954 --> 00:34:49,696 - She loves teacups. 711 00:34:49,870 --> 00:34:53,395 - Do you realize that she is 12 now? 712 00:34:53,569 --> 00:34:56,616 Faith, come on. Let's go. 713 00:34:56,790 --> 00:34:59,923 Josh, we're in the car! 714 00:35:00,098 --> 00:35:08,628 [ music ] 715 00:35:08,802 --> 00:35:18,638 [ birds singing ] 716 00:35:24,861 --> 00:35:30,998 [ ring tone ] 717 00:35:31,172 --> 00:35:33,348 - Yeah, I had them checked yesterday, they said they're fine. 718 00:35:33,522 --> 00:35:36,177 Yep, spare too. 719 00:35:36,351 --> 00:35:38,310 Yeah, I know. We can Skype. 720 00:35:38,484 --> 00:35:42,270 I'll be home in like 11 weeks. 721 00:35:42,444 --> 00:35:44,490 Mm-hmm. [ water pouring ] 722 00:35:44,664 --> 00:35:47,188 All right, you too--see ya. 723 00:35:47,362 --> 00:35:48,450 - Was that Dad? 724 00:35:48,624 --> 00:35:51,497 - Mm--yep. 725 00:35:51,671 --> 00:35:53,412 - You know, he tried to take an later flight so he could be here. 726 00:35:53,586 --> 00:35:55,414 - No big deal--he was here for the party last night. 727 00:35:55,588 --> 00:35:57,111 - Yeah, well, I can't believe that they wouldn't let him 728 00:35:57,285 --> 00:35:58,460 miss a meeting so that he could be here to see 729 00:35:58,634 --> 00:35:59,461 his firstborn son off to college. 730 00:35:59,635 --> 00:36:00,941 - Mom, it's no big deal. 731 00:36:01,115 --> 00:36:02,638 - Hey--you need help with your stuff? 732 00:36:02,812 --> 00:36:12,692 - Got it. 733 00:36:22,049 --> 00:36:26,445 - You know, your dad and I keep thinking that Dunwood ia mistake. 734 00:36:26,619 --> 00:36:28,186 You had your choice of a dozen schools. 735 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,145 I--I don't see why you had to pick the most extreme. 736 00:36:31,319 --> 00:36:33,800 - Mom, look, I know this is hard for you, letting go-- 737 00:36:33,974 --> 00:36:36,629 but you've done your job. You raised me, okay? 738 00:36:36,803 --> 00:36:38,979 I stayed out of trouble, I got the grades, 739 00:36:39,153 --> 00:36:42,069 I got the full scholarship, tuition, room and board. 740 00:36:42,243 --> 00:36:52,166 You did good, okay. 741 00:36:53,863 --> 00:36:54,821 - Where do you want these? 742 00:36:54,995 --> 00:37:04,831 - Um, passenger seat. 743 00:37:16,538 --> 00:37:26,374 [ music ] 744 00:37:26,548 --> 00:37:29,986 Hey, are you looking through all my stuff? 745 00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,075 - I was just looking at your baby picture, and-- 746 00:37:32,250 --> 00:37:34,034 - It's just a book, okay? 747 00:37:34,208 --> 00:37:36,123 I mean, you--you can't really know what you believe 748 00:37:36,297 --> 00:37:37,951 until you've read all the sides. 749 00:37:38,125 --> 00:37:42,738 And he teaches at Dunwood? 750 00:37:42,912 --> 00:37:45,001 - I'm not gonna do this again with you, okay? 751 00:37:45,175 --> 00:37:46,264 The decision is made. 752 00:37:46,438 --> 00:37:47,830 Classes start on Thursday. 753 00:37:48,004 --> 00:37:50,224 Would you let it go? 754 00:37:50,398 --> 00:37:53,619 - Ronnie, what are you-- - Mom, let it go. 755 00:37:53,793 --> 00:37:56,404 - Okay. 756 00:37:56,578 --> 00:37:57,492 Do you have your registration and everything 757 00:37:57,666 --> 00:38:03,281 in your glove compartment? 758 00:38:03,455 --> 00:38:05,674 - That belongs to Matt. He put it there the other night. 759 00:38:05,848 --> 00:38:08,851 He just asked me to keep it for a few days. 760 00:38:09,025 --> 00:38:10,853 - And you were just going to drop it off by his house 761 00:38:11,027 --> 00:38:12,812 on your way out on Monday morning? 762 00:38:12,986 --> 00:38:15,293 - Exactly, so-- 763 00:38:15,467 --> 00:38:18,600 - You are not leaving this driveway with drugs in your car. 764 00:38:18,774 --> 00:38:21,473 Do you have any more of this stuff in here? 765 00:38:21,647 --> 00:38:29,002 [ music ] 766 00:38:29,176 --> 00:38:31,439 - Are you done? 767 00:38:31,613 --> 00:38:33,659 - When your father finds out about this-- 768 00:38:33,833 --> 00:38:38,881 Yeah, okay, whatever. [ laughs ] 769 00:38:39,055 --> 00:38:45,105 [ sighs ] Hey, you guys know where to find me, all right? 770 00:38:45,279 --> 00:38:48,848 Look me up sometime. 771 00:38:49,022 --> 00:38:57,944 Reed Hall--room 517. 772 00:38:58,118 --> 00:39:00,207 [ engine starts ] 773 00:39:00,381 --> 00:39:04,559 Bye, Mom. [ door alarm chime ] 774 00:39:04,733 --> 00:39:06,996 Close the door. 775 00:39:07,170 --> 00:39:12,872 [ music ] 776 00:39:13,046 --> 00:39:22,882 - Ronnie--Ronnie! 777 00:39:24,362 --> 00:39:34,328 [ music ] 778 00:39:47,646 --> 00:39:48,908 Katie: I had fun, Mike. 779 00:39:49,082 --> 00:39:53,216 - I did too, Katie. 780 00:39:53,391 --> 00:39:55,305 - Uh, I should probably go before my parents 781 00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:56,829 suspect anything. 782 00:39:57,003 --> 00:40:03,618 - Oh--just stay a little while longer. 783 00:40:03,792 --> 00:40:06,752 - I don't know, I just don't wanna get caught. 784 00:40:06,926 --> 00:40:11,104 - Your parents are probably in bed. 785 00:40:11,278 --> 00:40:13,062 - Uh, yeah. 786 00:40:13,236 --> 00:40:15,021 - Come on. 787 00:40:15,195 --> 00:40:21,288 - I just--I should probably go. 788 00:40:21,462 --> 00:40:22,768 - You know he hasn't lost his phone. 789 00:40:22,942 --> 00:40:25,161 He just doesn't wanna talk to us. 790 00:40:25,335 --> 00:40:27,207 - It's been three days. 791 00:40:27,381 --> 00:40:28,774 He'll cool off and call us back. 792 00:40:28,948 --> 00:40:30,340 - Yeah, well, I think he's an atheist, 793 00:40:30,515 --> 00:40:32,647 and it's not just about the book. 794 00:40:32,821 --> 00:40:35,041 - He's a teenager, he's confused. [ distant shouting ] 795 00:40:35,215 --> 00:40:36,738 I read all kinds of books when I was his age. 796 00:40:36,912 --> 00:40:39,872 - [ distant screaming ] Help! 797 00:40:40,046 --> 00:40:48,315 - You hear that? 798 00:40:48,489 --> 00:40:50,273 - Hon, should I-- should I call the police? 799 00:40:50,448 --> 00:41:00,153 [ suspenseful music ] - No, I'll check it out. 800 00:41:03,461 --> 00:41:13,253 - [ distant shouting ] Mike, let go! 801 00:41:20,216 --> 00:41:22,001 Let go! You're hurting my arm! 802 00:41:22,175 --> 00:41:24,394 Please--ugh! 803 00:41:24,569 --> 00:41:26,701 Charlie: Hey! 804 00:41:26,875 --> 00:41:27,702 [engine revving, tires squealing] 805 00:41:27,876 --> 00:41:31,227 Hey! 806 00:41:31,401 --> 00:41:32,490 Kate! 807 00:41:32,664 --> 00:41:34,143 [crying, gasping] 808 00:41:34,317 --> 00:41:35,188 What happened? You all right? 809 00:41:35,362 --> 00:41:37,016 - I'm fine. 810 00:41:37,190 --> 00:41:38,278 - You okay? Who was that? - Yes, I'm fine. 811 00:41:38,452 --> 00:41:41,107 - Who was that? Did he hurt you? 812 00:41:41,281 --> 00:41:43,588 Hey, look at me--are you okay? - Yeah. 813 00:41:43,762 --> 00:41:45,764 - Are you okay? - Yes, I'm fine--Dad-- 814 00:41:45,938 --> 00:41:47,374 - No, you're not. - Yes [ crying ] 815 00:41:47,548 --> 00:41:54,990 Come here, come here. [ panting ] 816 00:41:55,164 --> 00:42:00,256 [ crying ] 817 00:42:00,430 --> 00:42:03,172 [ footsteps ] 818 00:42:03,346 --> 00:42:05,740 - Honey? What's going on? 819 00:42:05,914 --> 00:42:07,307 Katie? 820 00:42:07,481 --> 00:42:08,743 Katie, what are you doing out? 821 00:42:08,917 --> 00:42:11,050 - Sit down. - What is going on? 822 00:42:11,224 --> 00:42:16,577 - Sit down. Answer your mother. 823 00:42:16,751 --> 00:42:18,753 - Kate? - I snuck out on a date. 824 00:42:18,927 --> 00:42:19,972 - What else? - Excuse me? 825 00:42:20,146 --> 00:42:23,889 - What else happened? 826 00:42:24,063 --> 00:42:26,456 She snuck out on a date with a boy who pushed her out of his car. 827 00:42:26,631 --> 00:42:27,675 - He did what? 828 00:42:27,849 --> 00:42:29,982 Who is this person? What-- 829 00:42:30,156 --> 00:42:31,374 - You don't know him. 830 00:42:31,549 --> 00:42:33,159 - Oh, I'm gonna know him. 831 00:42:33,333 --> 00:42:34,552 - That is not what I asked, missy. 832 00:42:34,726 --> 00:42:36,379 Who is he? 833 00:42:36,554 --> 00:42:38,381 Katherine. 834 00:42:38,556 --> 00:42:42,211 - His name--his name is Mike. He's in college. 835 00:42:42,385 --> 00:42:43,604 - College? Child upstairs: Mommy, I need water. 836 00:42:43,778 --> 00:42:45,650 - Katie, he's in college? [ coughing ] 837 00:42:45,824 --> 00:42:48,827 Katie, I am not happy about this. - I need medicine. 838 00:42:49,001 --> 00:42:51,612 - We're not through. Come on. Where's your cup? [ coughing ] 839 00:42:51,786 --> 00:42:55,703 I had your medicine right by your bed. Did you not take it? 840 00:42:55,877 --> 00:42:58,314 - This isn't the first time you've done this, is it? 841 00:42:58,488 --> 00:43:00,229 - No. 842 00:43:00,403 --> 00:43:03,493 - Well, it's the last time. 843 00:43:03,668 --> 00:43:05,495 You're grounded. 844 00:43:05,670 --> 00:43:07,541 Your mom and I will talk about for how long. 845 00:43:07,715 --> 00:43:09,456 - Typical. 846 00:43:09,630 --> 00:43:11,110 - What did you say? 847 00:43:11,284 --> 00:43:12,938 - Look, Mike's a good guy. 848 00:43:13,112 --> 00:43:14,722 This is the first time anything has happened. 849 00:43:14,896 --> 00:43:18,639 - Good guys don't push people out of their car, Katie. 850 00:43:18,813 --> 00:43:23,688 - Yeah, well, I can take care of myself. 851 00:43:23,862 --> 00:43:26,212 - Really? Like tonight? 852 00:43:26,386 --> 00:43:27,996 - Yeah. - Well done. 853 00:43:28,170 --> 00:43:30,085 - Like tonight, and like every other night 854 00:43:30,259 --> 00:43:32,784 when you're at "work" and Mom's at home taking care of Faith 855 00:43:32,958 --> 00:43:35,438 and Josh by herself. I'm fine. 856 00:43:35,613 --> 00:43:39,878 I picked you up off the sidewalk, Kate! 857 00:43:40,052 --> 00:43:44,273 Does that sound "fine" to you? 858 00:43:44,447 --> 00:43:46,101 - You know what, this is going nowhere. 859 00:43:46,275 --> 00:43:48,060 Sit down! - Look, can you just leave me alone! 860 00:43:48,234 --> 00:43:56,155 - I'm not done talking to you! - Just leave me alone! Ugh! 861 00:43:56,329 --> 00:44:02,335 [ distant arguing ] 862 00:44:02,509 --> 00:44:12,214 [ somber music ] [ arguing, door slams ] 863 00:44:12,388 --> 00:44:16,697 Charlie: How come I didn't know about this boy? 864 00:44:16,871 --> 00:44:20,745 - Because we've been giving her space. 865 00:44:20,919 --> 00:44:21,876 I feel like all I've heard for the past two years-- 866 00:44:22,050 --> 00:44:23,486 "Mom, gimme space." 867 00:44:23,661 --> 00:44:27,534 - Yeah, well, look where "space" got us. 868 00:44:27,708 --> 00:44:30,189 How did I not... 869 00:44:30,363 --> 00:44:33,105 - We need help, Charlie. 870 00:44:33,279 --> 00:44:34,541 - I can fix this. 871 00:44:34,715 --> 00:44:36,456 - Okay, then. What's your plan? 872 00:44:36,630 --> 00:44:39,851 - I'm gonna spend some time with her. 873 00:44:40,025 --> 00:44:44,507 Some one-on-one time, some real time, with Kate. 874 00:44:44,682 --> 00:44:46,727 And the other kids. 875 00:44:46,901 --> 00:44:50,383 I can, you know, really make an effort, which I haven't. 876 00:44:50,557 --> 00:44:51,645 But I can cut back. 877 00:44:51,819 --> 00:44:53,995 - Babe, we've tried that. 878 00:44:54,169 --> 00:44:56,128 Please, we need something that's gonna last more than two weeks. 879 00:44:56,302 --> 00:44:58,783 - It will. I'm serious. 880 00:44:58,957 --> 00:45:00,872 - Honey, the only reason that Kate is still here 881 00:45:01,046 --> 00:45:03,004 is because she is too young to leave. 882 00:45:03,178 --> 00:45:05,833 She's gonna brush you off just like she does me. 883 00:45:06,007 --> 00:45:08,749 She wants less of us in her life, not more. 884 00:45:08,923 --> 00:45:12,318 Honey, we have got to get help. 885 00:45:12,492 --> 00:45:15,669 We have two more coming up after her, and she's following 886 00:45:15,843 --> 00:45:24,983 right after Ronnie, and they're gonna follow right after her. 887 00:45:25,157 --> 00:45:28,377 - He started drifting away and--and doing his own thing, 888 00:45:28,551 --> 00:45:35,210 and I just thought it was normal young adolescence stuff. 889 00:45:35,384 --> 00:45:37,822 - I know our jobs as parents is to make sure our kids 890 00:45:37,996 --> 00:45:41,956 are well taken care of and-- and keep them out of trouble, right? 891 00:45:42,130 --> 00:45:44,698 - Yeah. - Teresa and I began to realize that maybe we had 892 00:45:44,872 --> 00:45:46,831 our priorities all wrong. 893 00:45:47,005 --> 00:45:49,572 Look, we were looking at the spiritual development 894 00:45:49,747 --> 00:45:51,357 of our children as only a part of their lives, 895 00:45:51,531 --> 00:45:53,881 but not the centerpiece. 896 00:45:54,055 --> 00:45:55,970 Man, we cared about more about how they acted than we did 897 00:45:56,144 --> 00:45:59,495 about teaching them what loving and trusting 898 00:45:59,669 --> 00:46:03,108 and walking with Jesus every day looks like. 899 00:46:03,282 --> 00:46:08,113 What they learned from us was how to stay away from sin. 900 00:46:08,287 --> 00:46:11,507 Don't mess up, and if you do, don't--don't--don't tell anybody 901 00:46:11,681 --> 00:46:15,729 or else you'll be in big trouble. 902 00:46:15,903 --> 00:46:16,948 Man, we taught them how to hide their sin 903 00:46:17,122 --> 00:46:21,648 rather than confess it. 904 00:46:21,822 --> 00:46:26,653 They never saw us confessing anything. 905 00:46:26,827 --> 00:46:31,049 - I can't get my kids to talk to me, let alone confess anything, so-- 906 00:46:31,223 --> 00:46:32,877 - Here is your catfish and fries for you, 907 00:46:33,051 --> 00:46:35,618 and catfish and slaw for you. 908 00:46:35,793 --> 00:46:37,272 You guys need anything else? 909 00:46:37,446 --> 00:46:40,710 - We're good, thank you. - Okay, enjoy. 910 00:46:40,885 --> 00:46:42,756 - Teresa and I were talking the other night, 911 00:46:42,930 --> 00:46:45,890 and she thinks that--WE think that maybe it'd be a good idea 912 00:46:46,064 --> 00:46:48,457 for the, uh, four of us to get together 913 00:46:48,631 --> 00:46:50,982 and go to that new parenting series at church. 914 00:46:51,156 --> 00:46:53,854 - I just-- 915 00:46:54,028 --> 00:46:56,857 - I know--I know we'll probably be the oldest ones in the group, all right? 916 00:46:57,031 --> 00:47:00,208 But it can't hurt to sit in on a few sessions, now can it? 917 00:47:00,382 --> 00:47:02,732 [ exhales ] 918 00:47:02,907 --> 00:47:05,300 - Okay. 919 00:47:05,474 --> 00:47:07,259 - Yeah? - Yeah, I'll do it, let's do it. 920 00:47:07,433 --> 00:47:10,436 - Good. Good. 921 00:47:10,610 --> 00:47:12,917 Now--now can you pray over the food so I can eat my catfish, please? 922 00:47:13,091 --> 00:47:16,616 - Sure. [ laughter ] 923 00:47:16,790 --> 00:47:23,275 God, thank you for the food, and for friends, 924 00:47:23,449 --> 00:47:29,281 and our kids. 925 00:47:29,455 --> 00:47:34,460 - Thanks for doing this. 926 00:47:34,634 --> 00:47:36,592 - Hey! - Excuse me. 927 00:47:36,766 --> 00:47:45,036 [ low chatter ] 928 00:47:45,210 --> 00:47:47,299 Host: Okay, come on in. It's getting started. 929 00:47:47,473 --> 00:47:49,649 We wanna welcome you to the Art of Parenting 930 00:47:49,823 --> 00:47:51,912 video series, presented by FamilyLife. 931 00:47:52,086 --> 00:47:53,609 Here's what the schedule's gonna look like. 932 00:47:53,783 --> 00:47:55,785 We're gonna watch a video for about a half an hour-- 933 00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:57,787 - Hey--here we go. Host: take some notes, and we'll break out 934 00:47:57,962 --> 00:48:00,312 into some mini-sessions. 935 00:48:00,486 --> 00:48:03,837 I think most parents in America say, "I want my kis 936 00:48:04,011 --> 00:48:08,973 to be happy," and/or "I want them to be successful." 937 00:48:09,147 --> 00:48:12,367 Woman on video: And I feel like, oh my gosh, that's not good enough. 938 00:48:12,541 --> 00:48:15,283 Happiness is just an emotion that comes and goes. 939 00:48:15,457 --> 00:48:16,937 Man on video: What does happiness look like? 940 00:48:17,111 --> 00:48:20,158 Um, it's kinda difficult to answer. 941 00:48:20,332 --> 00:48:30,211 [ music ] 942 00:48:35,564 --> 00:48:45,444 [ music ] 943 00:48:51,189 --> 00:49:01,547 [ music fades ] 944 00:49:01,721 --> 00:49:03,331 - Kate, can you come down here for a minute? 945 00:49:03,505 --> 00:49:10,164 - Yeah. Uh, one sec. 946 00:49:10,338 --> 00:49:11,339 Yeah, what's up? 947 00:49:11,513 --> 00:49:21,393 - Have a seat. 948 00:49:25,571 --> 00:49:30,880 Okay. [ clears throat ] 949 00:49:31,055 --> 00:49:35,494 Well, your mom and I, um, have come 950 00:49:35,668 --> 00:49:42,327 to realize that our faith and believing in God needs to be 951 00:49:42,501 --> 00:49:46,592 more than just going to church on Sundays or praying 952 00:49:46,766 --> 00:49:48,942 before we go to sleep. 953 00:49:49,116 --> 00:49:52,772 That God doesn't just need to be a part of our life, 954 00:49:52,946 --> 00:49:54,730 but that he needs to be the center of it. 955 00:49:54,904 --> 00:49:57,603 - What does that mean? 956 00:49:57,777 --> 00:50:00,998 - That's a good question, and honestly, um, we're still 957 00:50:01,172 --> 00:50:03,652 trying to figure that out too. 958 00:50:03,826 --> 00:50:06,960 - Well, I think for most of our marriage we have--we've tried 959 00:50:07,134 --> 00:50:12,183 to do the right thing, and we figured that if we were--we were 960 00:50:12,357 --> 00:50:14,141 doing that, if everything was going okay, 961 00:50:14,315 --> 00:50:16,491 that--that we were on track. 962 00:50:16,665 --> 00:50:22,584 - Yeah, we--we just--we thought we just had to do our best, 963 00:50:22,758 --> 00:50:29,113 and turn to God when things aren't working or you get stuck. 964 00:50:29,287 --> 00:50:32,638 But that's not the way it is. 965 00:50:32,812 --> 00:50:37,251 We've been learning a lot about this book-The Bible-- 966 00:50:37,425 --> 00:50:41,081 and that this is what God wants us to spend time in every day, 967 00:50:41,255 --> 00:50:44,171 so that we can learn more about him. 968 00:50:44,345 --> 00:50:47,044 This is how he teaches us about himself, 969 00:50:47,218 --> 00:50:51,744 and this is how we learn his plan for us. 970 00:50:51,918 --> 00:50:56,401 Jesus said that we-- we need God's word 971 00:50:56,575 --> 00:50:59,360 more than we need food. - Nuh-uh. 972 00:50:59,534 --> 00:51:04,148 - Yeah. yeah, I know--it's--it's-- it's hard to believe, but it's true. 973 00:51:04,322 --> 00:51:09,153 You know, our souls hunger for these words the way 974 00:51:09,327 --> 00:51:14,723 that our body hungers for food. 975 00:51:14,897 --> 00:51:19,902 I want us, as a family, to start spending time every single day 976 00:51:20,077 --> 00:51:23,167 reading the bible together. 977 00:51:23,341 --> 00:51:26,344 - I try to read my bible sometimes, but there's a lot 978 00:51:26,518 --> 00:51:28,694 of words in there that I don't know what they mean. 979 00:51:28,868 --> 00:51:30,826 - [ laughter ] I under-- you know, there's a lot of words 980 00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:32,741 in here that I don't know what they mean either. 981 00:51:32,915 --> 00:51:35,092 But I bet if we dive in together, we can figure it out. 982 00:51:35,266 --> 00:51:37,006 Okay? I tell you what. 983 00:51:37,181 --> 00:51:40,532 Why don't we start-- why don't we start now? 984 00:51:40,706 --> 00:51:42,403 Go get your bibles and we'll dive in and just read 985 00:51:42,577 --> 00:51:44,927 a few versus, and--and-- and go from there, okay? 986 00:51:45,102 --> 00:51:55,068 Go ahead. 987 00:51:57,070 --> 00:51:59,942 Well, we'll see if this does any good. 988 00:52:00,117 --> 00:52:03,685 - Hon, you're doing great. 989 00:52:03,859 --> 00:52:05,687 We just have to remember that our job is to be faithful. 990 00:52:05,861 --> 00:52:08,821 Change is up to God. 991 00:52:08,995 --> 00:52:11,128 - Yeah. 992 00:52:11,302 --> 00:52:14,392 [ music playing ] [knocking] 993 00:52:14,566 --> 00:52:16,437 Charlie: Hey, you got a minute? 994 00:52:16,611 --> 00:52:26,491 - Mm-hmm. 995 00:52:33,019 --> 00:52:36,240 - Kate, I messed up. 996 00:52:36,414 --> 00:52:39,243 Um, I haven't been as involved in your life 997 00:52:39,417 --> 00:52:47,468 as I should have been. 998 00:52:47,642 --> 00:52:52,821 You have grown into a beautiful young woman, 999 00:52:52,995 --> 00:52:58,610 and somewhere along the way I quit being your dad. 1000 00:52:58,784 --> 00:53:01,830 [ music ] 1001 00:53:02,004 --> 00:53:05,747 You know, when you were little, I knew what to do. 1002 00:53:05,921 --> 00:53:12,319 We would go get ice cream, I'd just push you on the swing 1003 00:53:12,493 --> 00:53:21,067 while you said, "Higher, Daddy, higher." 1004 00:53:21,241 --> 00:53:29,510 And then you stopped wanting to go to the park, you know? 1005 00:53:29,684 --> 00:53:36,430 And I guess I just--I starting thinking maybe my job was over. 1006 00:53:36,604 --> 00:53:40,304 That was wrong. 1007 00:53:40,478 --> 00:53:42,567 That was really wrong. 1008 00:53:42,741 --> 00:53:52,664 [ music ] 1009 00:53:58,104 --> 00:54:02,151 You were on that sidewalk the other night 1010 00:54:02,326 --> 00:54:05,024 because of me. 1011 00:54:05,198 --> 00:54:14,947 I wasn't here for you, and I stopped protecting you. 1012 00:54:17,254 --> 00:54:19,168 Will you forgive me? 1013 00:54:19,343 --> 00:54:21,606 I'm so sorry. 1014 00:54:21,780 --> 00:54:26,785 - I forgive you, Dad. [ crying ] 1015 00:54:26,959 --> 00:54:35,402 [ music swells ] 1016 00:54:35,576 --> 00:54:37,622 I have something to say to you too. 1017 00:54:37,796 --> 00:54:39,363 - Okay. 1018 00:54:39,537 --> 00:54:43,671 - Um... 1019 00:54:43,845 --> 00:54:48,067 I'm sorry I snuck out with Mike. 1020 00:54:48,241 --> 00:54:53,246 I knew that it was wrong, but I just--it was nice 1021 00:54:53,420 --> 00:55:02,560 to have a guy paying attention to me, making me feel special. 1022 00:55:02,734 --> 00:55:10,132 I know it caused you guys a lot of stress. 1023 00:55:10,307 --> 00:55:12,700 Can you forgive me too? 1024 00:55:12,874 --> 00:55:22,536 - Of course. 1025 00:55:22,710 --> 00:55:24,408 Buds? 1026 00:55:24,582 --> 00:55:25,626 - Buds. - Pals? 1027 00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:27,672 - Pals. - BFFs? 1028 00:55:27,846 --> 00:55:29,021 - Okay, nobody says that anymore. 1029 00:55:29,195 --> 00:55:31,415 [ laughter ] 1030 00:55:31,589 --> 00:55:33,025 - What do they say now? 1031 00:55:33,199 --> 00:55:35,984 - Uh, I don't know, like, "Dudes." 1032 00:55:36,158 --> 00:55:37,029 I don't know. - Dudes? 1033 00:55:37,203 --> 00:55:41,294 - Don't call me that. 1034 00:55:41,468 --> 00:55:43,427 - Ice cream date? 1035 00:55:43,601 --> 00:55:44,906 - Mm. - What do you think? 1036 00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:46,865 - I'll have to check my calendar. 1037 00:55:47,039 --> 00:55:48,562 - Gotta check your calendar--okay. 1038 00:55:48,736 --> 00:55:55,787 - Yeah. - Pencil me in. [ laughter ] 1039 00:55:55,961 --> 00:55:57,702 - Here, try this. 1040 00:55:57,876 --> 00:56:02,750 - Okay. 1041 00:56:02,924 --> 00:56:04,926 That's amazing. - Thanks. 1042 00:56:05,100 --> 00:56:07,451 - Yeah--no, I'm actually-- I'm really impressed. 1043 00:56:07,625 --> 00:56:10,715 - I still need to try it with less garlic, I think. 1044 00:56:10,889 --> 00:56:13,848 Or add it in earlier. 1045 00:56:14,022 --> 00:56:14,893 - How old are you? 1046 00:56:15,067 --> 00:56:17,025 - I'm ten, Dad. 1047 00:56:17,199 --> 00:56:19,811 - You're ten--oh, that's right, that's right. 1048 00:56:19,985 --> 00:56:20,855 Because you're talking like you're 35. 1049 00:56:21,029 --> 00:56:22,770 [ laughter ] 1050 00:56:22,944 --> 00:56:23,945 You know, I think we should find a way for you 1051 00:56:24,119 --> 00:56:25,294 to make some money doing this. 1052 00:56:25,469 --> 00:56:26,687 - For real? - Yeah. 1053 00:56:26,861 --> 00:56:28,863 - How? - Well, I have an idea. 1054 00:56:29,037 --> 00:56:31,649 You know how Mom goes to bible study on Monday nights 1055 00:56:31,823 --> 00:56:34,086 at the church? - Mm-hmm. 1056 00:56:34,260 --> 00:56:35,392 - What if you made dinner for the family every Monday? 1057 00:56:35,566 --> 00:56:37,219 - That'd be awesome! 1058 00:56:37,394 --> 00:56:38,612 - Yeah? Now we'd have to plan ahead, make sure 1059 00:56:38,786 --> 00:56:40,701 you have what you need. - Okay. 1060 00:56:40,875 --> 00:56:44,488 - But I'm thinking if you cook for everybody and then 1061 00:56:44,662 --> 00:56:48,492 you clean everything up, I'd be willing to give you 1062 00:56:48,666 --> 00:56:50,015 five dollars a week to do that. 1063 00:56:50,189 --> 00:56:51,973 - How about $10 a week? 1064 00:56:52,147 --> 00:56:53,453 - [ laughs ] Are you negotiating with me already? 1065 00:56:53,627 --> 00:56:54,454 - Yeah. - No, no, no, no-- 1066 00:56:54,628 --> 00:56:55,803 I'm gonna stick at five. 1067 00:56:55,977 --> 00:56:58,023 - Okay. - For now. 1068 00:56:58,197 --> 00:57:01,113 But if you made extra, then we could take some 1069 00:57:01,287 --> 00:57:03,071 to Mr. McBride from church as well. 1070 00:57:03,245 --> 00:57:05,160 I bet he'd love to have a meal cooked from you. Okay? 1071 00:57:05,334 --> 00:57:06,466 - Mm-hmm. - That sound good? 1072 00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:07,336 - Yeah. - Yeah? Are you excited? 1073 00:57:07,511 --> 00:57:08,947 - Yeah. 1074 00:57:09,121 --> 00:57:12,951 - Okay. Keep going, I wanna--eat more. 1075 00:57:13,125 --> 00:57:15,780 - Good, man. 1076 00:57:15,954 --> 00:57:19,261 Number five: What have you done to show your children 1077 00:57:19,436 --> 00:57:22,613 that they are special and unconditionally loved? 1078 00:57:22,787 --> 00:57:26,181 - Hm--well, I been spending some time with Josh, 1079 00:57:26,355 --> 00:57:27,922 helping him with his cooking. 1080 00:57:28,096 --> 00:57:30,272 He's pretty good. 1081 00:57:30,447 --> 00:57:31,970 - How's it been for you? 1082 00:57:32,144 --> 00:57:36,278 - Hard--at first. 1083 00:57:36,453 --> 00:57:38,759 You know, he, um, I guess I never really looked 1084 00:57:38,933 --> 00:57:41,545 at cooking as something that men did. 1085 00:57:41,719 --> 00:57:44,199 But I--I am learning that I can't make him 1086 00:57:44,373 --> 00:57:47,638 what I want him to be. 1087 00:57:47,812 --> 00:57:49,378 - Well, how's it been for him? 1088 00:57:49,553 --> 00:57:53,470 - He's--he's really opening up. 1089 00:57:53,644 --> 00:57:58,083 It's been really good. 1090 00:57:58,257 --> 00:58:08,180 [ music ] 1091 00:58:13,490 --> 00:58:14,795 - What are you working on? 1092 00:58:14,969 --> 00:58:17,929 - Katie's Arrow. - Hm. 1093 00:58:18,103 --> 00:58:20,192 - Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. 1094 00:58:20,366 --> 00:58:22,716 You're not gonna--you're not gonna copy off of my work. 1095 00:58:22,890 --> 00:58:24,675 - Thought we were supposed to do this together. 1096 00:58:24,849 --> 00:58:26,851 - Uh, ultimately, yes, but I would really--I think that we 1097 00:58:27,025 --> 00:58:29,767 should each do our own first draft. 1098 00:58:29,941 --> 00:58:31,725 And I see what you're--I see what you're doing here. 1099 00:58:31,899 --> 00:58:34,249 - Whatever--whatever you come up with, I'll be so fine with. 1100 00:58:34,423 --> 00:58:35,729 - Mm-hmm, yes, but that's-- you're not gonna get 1101 00:58:35,903 --> 00:58:37,644 outta your homework that easy. 1102 00:58:37,818 --> 00:58:42,257 - Gosh, you're no fun. - I'm fun sometimes. 1103 00:58:42,431 --> 00:58:43,868 Alice: I wrote that she's considerate and sensitive, 1104 00:58:44,042 --> 00:58:45,696 and something that I wanna work on her with 1105 00:58:45,870 --> 00:58:47,915 is cultivating a sense of belonging. 1106 00:58:48,089 --> 00:58:52,659 Charlie: I have that Faith is inventive and persistent. 1107 00:58:52,833 --> 00:58:54,835 Alice: That she is. Charlie: She is. 1108 00:58:55,009 --> 00:58:59,405 ♪ Oh, it's the most important battle we will fight ♪ 1109 00:58:59,579 --> 00:59:01,625 ♪ We've gotta give 'em more than words ♪ 1110 00:59:01,799 --> 00:59:04,758 ♪ Let's give our lives ♪ 1111 00:59:04,932 --> 00:59:09,197 ♪ Oh, it takes patience, it takes courage, it takes heart ♪ 1112 00:59:09,371 --> 00:59:14,246 ♪ We may be broken, but it's not too late to start ♪ 1113 00:59:14,420 --> 00:59:17,858 ♪ Pray on through this crazy life ♪ 1114 00:59:18,032 --> 00:59:21,558 ♪ Then watch them fly straight to ♪ 1115 00:59:21,732 --> 00:59:26,301 ♪ The target that we're aiming for--it's you ♪ 1116 00:59:26,475 --> 00:59:29,348 ♪ The target that we're aiming for is you ♪ 1117 00:59:29,522 --> 00:59:33,874 -- Okay. Science, though--mm. 1118 00:59:34,048 --> 00:59:36,747 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this life ♪ 1119 00:59:36,921 --> 00:59:38,792 - I'm not gonna let a video teach you how to tie a tie. 1120 00:59:38,966 --> 00:59:43,449 ♪ Like a torch that's burning through the darkest night ♪ 1121 00:59:43,623 --> 00:59:45,756 ♪ Lift them up, pull back the bow ♪ 1122 00:59:45,930 --> 00:59:52,806 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows... ♪ 1123 00:59:52,980 --> 00:59:54,982 - Oh, thank you very much, appreciate it. 1124 00:59:55,156 --> 00:59:58,246 - You're welcome. Have a good afternoon. 1125 00:59:58,420 --> 01:00:02,033 - I have some news for you. 1126 01:00:02,207 --> 01:00:04,644 - [ gasps ] Kate--Kate, oh my goodness! 1127 01:00:04,818 --> 01:00:06,864 Honey! 1128 01:00:07,038 --> 01:00:10,911 - I know, isn't it beautiful? - It's beautiful. 1129 01:00:11,085 --> 01:00:12,652 [ kitchen chatter ] 1130 01:00:12,826 --> 01:00:15,176 Josh: Yes, sir. 1131 01:00:15,350 --> 01:00:17,875 ♪ Like a torch that's burning through the darkest night ♪ 1132 01:00:18,049 --> 01:00:19,877 - There you go--yeah, there you go. 1133 01:00:20,051 --> 01:00:21,705 A little higher, a little higher--right there. 1134 01:00:21,879 --> 01:00:23,968 There it is--there you go, very nice. Good job, Josh. 1135 01:00:24,142 --> 01:00:28,755 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this life ♪ 1136 01:00:28,929 --> 01:00:32,759 ♪ Like a torch that's burning through the darkest night ♪ 1137 01:00:32,933 --> 01:00:35,414 ♪ Send them off like arrows ♪ 1138 01:00:35,588 --> 01:00:42,943 [ music ] 1139 01:00:43,117 --> 01:00:45,729 - So, uh, your handsome son is nowhere to be found, 1140 01:00:45,903 --> 01:00:48,079 so I guess you have to call me in on my day off? 1141 01:00:48,253 --> 01:00:49,297 - Kenneth! 1142 01:00:49,471 --> 01:00:51,430 - How's it going? 1143 01:00:51,604 --> 01:00:53,388 - It's good. No, Josh actually is doing all of the food 1144 01:00:53,562 --> 01:00:55,042 for the wedding. 1145 01:00:55,216 --> 01:00:56,478 - Is that right? - That's right. 1146 01:00:56,653 --> 01:00:58,959 - [ laughs ] That's great. 1147 01:00:59,133 --> 01:01:01,483 - He's just making pasta, but he's very excited about it. 1148 01:01:01,658 --> 01:01:04,051 - Yeah, you know, he's always been the best cook 1149 01:01:04,225 --> 01:01:05,879 out of both of our families. 1150 01:01:06,053 --> 01:01:07,838 I don't know why I didn't see that. 1151 01:01:08,012 --> 01:01:12,625 Don't tell Teresa, though. - [ laughs ] Okay. 1152 01:01:12,799 --> 01:01:15,410 - I heard you got three summers left with him. 1153 01:01:15,584 --> 01:01:17,543 - Not enough time, if you ask me. 1154 01:01:17,717 --> 01:01:21,547 - Zero left with Kate. - Thank you. 1155 01:01:21,721 --> 01:01:23,723 - [ laughs ] Well, you--at least you got two extra summers 1156 01:01:23,897 --> 01:01:26,073 out of it with her. 1157 01:01:26,247 --> 01:01:28,336 - God has restored beyond repair. 1158 01:01:28,510 --> 01:01:30,817 - That, heh, is his specialty. 1159 01:01:30,991 --> 01:01:33,341 - You're telling me. - [ laughter ] 1160 01:01:33,515 --> 01:01:39,608 [ music ] 1161 01:01:39,783 --> 01:01:43,743 - Hey, sweetheart. - Hey. Get everything unload? 1162 01:01:43,917 --> 01:01:47,181 - Unloaded, set up--looks good. 1163 01:01:47,355 --> 01:01:53,753 - Thanks. 1164 01:01:53,927 --> 01:02:01,108 - Hey, I wanna show you something. 1165 01:02:01,282 --> 01:02:11,075 Kate was the one who found it. 1166 01:02:13,904 --> 01:02:20,998 - Is that Ronnie? 1167 01:02:21,172 --> 01:02:25,654 Who's the little guy? 1168 01:02:25,829 --> 01:02:27,308 Is that-- - He looks just like you. 1169 01:02:27,482 --> 01:02:32,226 - [ voice cracking ] Is that his? 1170 01:02:32,400 --> 01:02:36,274 [ sighs ] 1171 01:02:36,448 --> 01:02:42,236 [ hoarsely ] He has a son. 1172 01:02:42,410 --> 01:02:46,719 Well, what else do you know besides this picture? 1173 01:02:46,893 --> 01:02:48,895 - Kate was looking around, and, um, from what she could tell 1174 01:02:49,069 --> 01:02:50,767 it looked like Ronnie didn't even know 1175 01:02:50,941 --> 01:02:55,336 he was a dad in--until, like, a couple weeks ago. 1176 01:02:55,510 --> 01:02:59,645 Looks like the mom dropped the little guy off with him at his place. 1177 01:02:59,819 --> 01:03:00,864 - Where's that? 1178 01:03:01,038 --> 01:03:03,301 - Someplace in Oregon. 1179 01:03:03,475 --> 01:03:05,999 - Did you call? Did you call him? 1180 01:03:06,173 --> 01:03:08,654 - Yeah, I left a message. - What'd you say? 1181 01:03:08,828 --> 01:03:10,569 - Nothing--nothing out of the ordinary. 1182 01:03:10,743 --> 01:03:12,876 You know, I didn't--I didn't let on, uh, that I had seen 1183 01:03:13,050 --> 01:03:19,230 a picture or anything. 1184 01:03:19,404 --> 01:03:21,972 Hon, are you okay? 1185 01:03:22,146 --> 01:03:24,017 [ hoarsely ] I have a grandson. 1186 01:03:24,191 --> 01:03:25,192 [ sniffing ] 1187 01:03:25,366 --> 01:03:31,633 We're grandparents. 1188 01:03:31,808 --> 01:03:33,592 - Those are the only pictures that we have. 1189 01:03:33,766 --> 01:03:36,769 - Any reason to think that he'll be-- 1190 01:03:36,943 --> 01:03:41,208 is he gonna be there at the wedding, do you think? 1191 01:03:41,382 --> 01:03:45,647 - No. No, I--I don't think so. 1192 01:03:45,822 --> 01:03:49,477 [ music ] 1193 01:03:49,651 --> 01:03:59,618 [ sniffs ] 1194 01:04:00,967 --> 01:04:04,362 [ sighs ] 1195 01:04:04,536 --> 01:04:08,932 - Father... 1196 01:04:09,106 --> 01:04:13,850 [ sniffs ] we pray for our-- we pray for our boy. 1197 01:04:14,024 --> 01:04:17,027 We don't know where he is, Father, but you do. 1198 01:04:17,201 --> 01:04:23,076 And God, we thank you for the blessing of a grandson. 1199 01:04:23,250 --> 01:04:25,600 A grandson. 1200 01:04:25,774 --> 01:04:30,301 And we pray that you will protect him from any harm 1201 01:04:30,475 --> 01:04:34,609 or evil that may come his way. 1202 01:04:34,783 --> 01:04:35,915 God, somehow-- 1203 01:04:36,089 --> 01:04:40,485 [ whispering ] 1204 01:04:40,659 --> 01:04:44,010 Somehow, that he will come to know you at a young age. 1205 01:04:44,184 --> 01:04:46,621 That he will learn to love you and to walk with you 1206 01:04:46,795 --> 01:04:55,369 and to trust you with his whole life. 1207 01:04:55,543 --> 01:05:01,071 Father, we pray again for our boy, Ronnie, Father. 1208 01:05:01,245 --> 01:05:06,380 [ hoarsely ] My boy. 1209 01:05:06,554 --> 01:05:13,692 Bring him home, Father. Bring him home. 1210 01:05:13,866 --> 01:05:20,525 Help him see the folly of his sin, Father, and the reality 1211 01:05:20,699 --> 01:05:29,142 of your love, and the reality of our love. 1212 01:05:29,316 --> 01:05:32,319 It's in your son's name we pray. 1213 01:05:32,493 --> 01:05:37,846 Amen. 1214 01:05:38,021 --> 01:05:40,980 We have a grandson! [ laughter ] 1215 01:05:41,154 --> 01:05:46,681 Oh! Oh! 1216 01:05:46,855 --> 01:05:48,466 [ voicemail greeting ] Uh, hey, this is Ronnie. 1217 01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:50,076 I can't get to the phone right now. - Honey-- 1218 01:05:50,250 --> 01:05:52,339 [ voicemail greeting ] Leave me a message. 1219 01:05:52,513 --> 01:05:55,995 -Honey, if you're gonna talk to the bride, you need to go do it now. 1220 01:05:56,169 --> 01:05:58,780 - I don't think he's coming. 1221 01:05:58,955 --> 01:06:07,050 [ music ] 1222 01:06:07,224 --> 01:06:10,183 - Just remember, you're on the left, he's on the right. [ laughs ] 1223 01:06:10,357 --> 01:06:12,272 - Come here. Mm. 1224 01:06:12,446 --> 01:06:14,579 - I'm not supposed to be touching your dress. 1225 01:06:14,753 --> 01:06:18,539 - It's okay. 1226 01:06:18,713 --> 01:06:21,673 Listen. 1227 01:06:21,847 --> 01:06:25,851 Today is a big day for Daddy. 1228 01:06:26,025 --> 01:06:28,419 He probably won't show it, but on Monday, when you guys 1229 01:06:28,593 --> 01:06:31,639 are back at home and I'm not there, he'll probably 1230 01:06:31,813 --> 01:06:33,902 try to act like he's not sad. 1231 01:06:34,077 --> 01:06:38,429 But he'll be sad--a little sad. 1232 01:06:38,603 --> 01:06:41,606 He only has one little girl at home now, and that's you. 1233 01:06:41,780 --> 01:06:44,261 - But I'm not a little girl anymore. 1234 01:06:44,435 --> 01:06:46,480 - You are to him. 1235 01:06:46,654 --> 01:06:49,179 Even though you're 13, he's still gonna need 1236 01:06:49,353 --> 01:06:51,659 those hugs from you. 1237 01:06:51,833 --> 01:06:54,488 He needs to know you haven't gotten too cool for him, okay? 1238 01:06:54,662 --> 01:06:58,492 - Mm-hmm. [ laughter ] 1239 01:06:58,666 --> 01:07:04,542 And when you get to be my age, and you meet a cute boy, 1240 01:07:04,716 --> 01:07:10,678 just like Rick, who loves Jesus, and he asks you to marry him, 1241 01:07:10,852 --> 01:07:13,290 you make sure you get Daddy's blessing before you run off 1242 01:07:13,464 --> 01:07:15,944 and get married. 1243 01:07:16,119 --> 01:07:17,903 And remember, whoever you marry has to wanna live 1244 01:07:18,077 --> 01:07:19,035 no more than 30 miles from Mom and Dad. 1245 01:07:19,209 --> 01:07:20,253 - Really? 1246 01:07:20,427 --> 01:07:22,212 [ knocking ] 1247 01:07:22,386 --> 01:07:27,130 - [ laughter ] I'm kidding. But help your dad. 1248 01:07:27,304 --> 01:07:31,873 - Ladies? 1249 01:07:32,048 --> 01:07:36,182 Excuse me, miss--um, have you seen my daughter Kate anywhere? 1250 01:07:36,356 --> 01:07:38,619 [ laughter ] 1251 01:07:38,793 --> 01:07:39,968 No, no, no, this can't-- this can't be her. 1252 01:07:40,143 --> 01:07:43,320 This is an angel. 1253 01:07:43,494 --> 01:07:45,583 You look gorgeous. 1254 01:07:45,757 --> 01:07:48,151 - Thank you, Daddy. 1255 01:07:48,325 --> 01:07:50,153 - Hey, um, Faith, can you give us a minute? 1256 01:07:50,327 --> 01:07:55,462 Why don't you go see if you can help Mommy? 1257 01:07:55,636 --> 01:07:58,900 Okay. 1258 01:07:59,075 --> 01:08:00,815 Are you ready for all this? 1259 01:08:00,989 --> 01:08:01,860 Because we can call this thing off right now. 1260 01:08:02,034 --> 01:08:11,043 - Dad, Dad-- 1261 01:08:11,217 --> 01:08:15,569 So Ronnie--I don't think he's-- - Dad, I know. It's okay. 1262 01:08:15,743 --> 01:08:19,660 We'll just keep praying for them--for both of them now. 1263 01:08:19,834 --> 01:08:21,619 - Kate, I just--I wanted to-- 1264 01:08:21,793 --> 01:08:27,625 - Dad, I'm not going to let this steal the joy of this day, 1265 01:08:27,799 --> 01:08:30,758 and you shouldn't either. 1266 01:08:30,932 --> 01:08:32,978 - Hey--sorry to interrupt. 1267 01:08:33,152 --> 01:08:35,546 Kate, honey, they need you out front before the guests arrive. 1268 01:08:35,720 --> 01:08:39,811 - Tell them I'll be right there. 1269 01:08:39,985 --> 01:08:43,249 - No, you go. 1270 01:08:43,423 --> 01:08:49,821 - You sure? - Yeah, we can talk later. 1271 01:08:49,995 --> 01:08:52,780 - Everything look okay, Mom? 1272 01:08:52,954 --> 01:08:54,521 - You look perfect, honey. 1273 01:08:54,695 --> 01:08:57,089 Come on, I'll walk you out. 1274 01:08:57,263 --> 01:08:59,526 - Love you. - Love you too. 1275 01:08:59,700 --> 01:09:02,442 Love you too. 1276 01:09:02,616 --> 01:09:12,496 [ music ] 1277 01:09:33,299 --> 01:09:37,347 [ congregation murmuring ] 1278 01:09:37,521 --> 01:09:45,398 - I love you, Daddy. It's okay. 1279 01:09:45,572 --> 01:09:55,321 - Phew. I love you so much, Katie. 1280 01:09:57,497 --> 01:10:03,764 Charlie: Katherine Grace Morris, now Katherine Grace Johnson, 1281 01:10:03,938 --> 01:10:06,680 is a testament to the saving grace and mercy 1282 01:10:06,854 --> 01:10:09,988 of our lord Jesus Christ. 1283 01:10:10,162 --> 01:10:14,340 Having received this blessing from the Lord 20 years ago, 1284 01:10:14,514 --> 01:10:19,258 I have faithfully taught her to love God with all of her heart, 1285 01:10:19,432 --> 01:10:21,826 soul, and strength. 1286 01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:26,047 Katherine has proved herself to honor God and authority, 1287 01:10:26,222 --> 01:10:30,835 to live responsibly, to hunger and thirst for righteousness, 1288 01:10:31,009 --> 01:10:33,185 to be a proper helpmeet, 1289 01:10:33,359 --> 01:10:36,232 to seek reconciliation and forgive quickly, 1290 01:10:36,406 --> 01:10:41,019 to obey the Lord and all His holy will. 1291 01:10:41,193 --> 01:10:49,332 I hereby give thanks and praise to God for this blessing, 1292 01:10:49,506 --> 01:10:51,638 [ voice cracking ] and in the presence of our Lord, 1293 01:10:51,812 --> 01:10:58,210 I declare to God be the glory. 1294 01:10:58,384 --> 01:11:03,650 I also declare that on this day, Katherine Grace Johnson 1295 01:11:03,824 --> 01:11:09,439 I know--given to me by God as an arrow in my quiver, 1296 01:11:09,613 --> 01:11:17,142 is hereby released into the world, 1297 01:11:17,316 --> 01:11:19,666 now in the hands 1298 01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:22,495 and the direction of her husband, 1299 01:11:22,669 --> 01:11:25,585 on mission for the Lord, by the Lord, 1300 01:11:25,759 --> 01:11:30,982 and of the Lord, to make a difference for him 1301 01:11:31,156 --> 01:11:33,245 and our generation. 1302 01:11:33,419 --> 01:11:37,945 May she be the mother of tens of thousands, and her legacy 1303 01:11:38,119 --> 01:11:42,733 continually bless future generations 1304 01:11:42,907 --> 01:11:44,212 for the glory of God. 1305 01:11:44,387 --> 01:11:47,128 Amen. 1306 01:11:47,303 --> 01:11:57,269 [ music ] 1307 01:12:03,536 --> 01:12:05,233 I love you. 1308 01:12:05,408 --> 01:12:08,585 - [ voice cracking ] I love you too, Daddy. 1309 01:12:08,759 --> 01:12:14,591 And I got my eye on you. [ laughter ] 1310 01:12:14,765 --> 01:12:16,680 [ phone ringing ] 1311 01:12:16,854 --> 01:12:18,595 [ automated voice ] Incoming call. 1312 01:12:18,769 --> 01:12:20,336 [ phone ringing ] 1313 01:12:20,510 --> 01:12:24,383 - Ronnie, it's Kate again. 1314 01:12:24,557 --> 01:12:25,906 Just calling to see if you're going to make it 1315 01:12:26,080 --> 01:12:28,648 to Mom and Dad's 50th next week or not. 1316 01:12:28,822 --> 01:12:33,827 I talked to your son Tim and he and Elizabeth are coming. 1317 01:12:34,001 --> 01:12:37,918 Ronnie, listen--you don't want to get a voicemail 1318 01:12:38,092 --> 01:12:40,225 at some point and learn that one of them is gone 1319 01:12:40,399 --> 01:12:43,794 and--and you never-- I don't know. 1320 01:12:43,968 --> 01:12:45,839 Just come, okay? 1321 01:12:46,013 --> 01:12:52,803 [ music ] 1322 01:12:52,977 --> 01:12:55,153 - What in the world have you done? [ laughs ] 1323 01:12:55,327 --> 01:12:59,679 - My internationally acclaimed strawberry French toast. 1324 01:12:59,853 --> 01:13:03,770 Made from an old family recipe that I dug up online 1325 01:13:03,944 --> 01:13:05,729 about 20 minutes ago. - [ laughter ] 1326 01:13:05,903 --> 01:13:07,644 - I bet the kitchen is a disaster. 1327 01:13:07,818 --> 01:13:10,168 - Ah, in a half-hour it will be spotless. 1328 01:13:10,342 --> 01:13:13,780 - No, I'll take care of it once I eat this beautifl breakfast. 1329 01:13:13,954 --> 01:13:16,217 Your son would be so proud. 1330 01:13:16,392 --> 01:13:18,916 - [ laughs ] Josh would be surprised that I can cook 1331 01:13:19,090 --> 01:13:21,309 anything for breakfast besides Pop Tarts. 1332 01:13:21,484 --> 01:13:22,136 - Do they still make those things? 1333 01:13:22,310 --> 01:13:24,138 - I have no idea. 1334 01:13:24,312 --> 01:13:28,708 Well anyway, this looks a lot better than Pop Tarts. 1335 01:13:28,882 --> 01:13:32,146 Whatever inspired you to make me such a special breakfast? 1336 01:13:32,320 --> 01:13:35,193 - I have no idea. 1337 01:13:35,367 --> 01:13:38,849 I was just sitting at the kitchen table, reading Joshua 9. 1338 01:13:39,023 --> 01:13:46,596 - Oh, is that so? 1339 01:13:46,770 --> 01:13:51,165 - Happy 50th--to the only woman I've ever loved. 1340 01:13:51,339 --> 01:13:54,255 - Oh, my Charlie. 1341 01:13:54,430 --> 01:13:58,434 [ tearfully ] You're the only man I've ever loved. 1342 01:13:58,608 --> 01:14:00,218 - Well, you should go ahead and eat before, uh, 1343 01:14:00,392 --> 01:14:02,089 my world-famous French Toast gets cold. 1344 01:14:02,263 --> 01:14:06,442 - [ laughs ] Okay. Mm. 1345 01:14:06,616 --> 01:14:15,581 [ music ] 1346 01:14:15,755 --> 01:14:17,627 - That looks great, guys. 1347 01:14:17,801 --> 01:14:19,977 Let's put it out the first 30 or so. 1348 01:14:20,151 --> 01:14:21,152 We'll ice the rest of them, and pull them out of the fridge as needed. 1349 01:14:21,326 --> 01:14:23,937 - Okay. - All right. 1350 01:14:24,111 --> 01:14:26,113 [ music ] 1351 01:14:26,287 --> 01:14:34,208 Girl: Is that her? [ laughter ] 1352 01:14:34,382 --> 01:14:36,907 - Hooray, you're here. - Hello. 1353 01:14:37,081 --> 01:14:39,039 - Oh, Faith, it is so good to see you. 1354 01:14:39,213 --> 01:14:40,824 - You too. 1355 01:14:40,998 --> 01:14:42,565 - Oh. And you guys are so grown up! 1356 01:14:42,739 --> 01:14:44,175 - Say hello to your Aunt Kate. 1357 01:14:44,349 --> 01:14:45,437 - Hello. - Hi, Auntie. 1358 01:14:45,611 --> 01:14:49,659 - Hello Aunt Kate! - Oh. 1359 01:14:49,833 --> 01:14:51,399 - When we're done, we're gonna put all these in the freezer. 1360 01:14:51,574 --> 01:14:56,230 Dad! Hey, it's good to see you. 1361 01:14:56,404 --> 01:14:58,494 - Hi, honey. - Hi, Mom. Oh, you look great. 1362 01:14:58,668 --> 01:15:00,408 - Aw, thank you. - Look at all this food. 1363 01:15:00,583 --> 01:15:01,888 Josh, we could feed everybody for a month with all this. 1364 01:15:02,062 --> 01:15:03,673 - Well, we're gonna have some leftovers, 1365 01:15:03,847 --> 01:15:05,501 but that's no problem, we'll take care of it. 1366 01:15:05,675 --> 01:15:08,504 - I think you may have gone over the budget that I gave you. 1367 01:15:08,678 --> 01:15:11,332 - Well, actually, uh, we are far under budget. 1368 01:15:11,507 --> 01:15:12,464 This is my gift to you guys. 1369 01:15:12,638 --> 01:15:13,378 - Oh, Josh-- - Yeah. 1370 01:15:13,552 --> 01:15:15,467 - Now, son, I-- 1371 01:15:15,641 --> 01:15:18,122 - No, no--listen, how often does a caterer get to serve 1372 01:15:18,296 --> 01:15:20,428 his parents on their 50th anniversary? 1373 01:15:20,603 --> 01:15:21,778 Now Dad, I know you did something special 1374 01:15:21,952 --> 01:15:23,606 for Mom, right? 1375 01:15:23,780 --> 01:15:25,999 - He brought me breakfast in bed this morning. 1376 01:15:26,173 --> 01:15:30,047 - Oh, really? That's impressive. Cornflakes? 1377 01:15:30,221 --> 01:15:33,877 - I'll have you know I made Strawberry French Toast. 1378 01:15:34,051 --> 01:15:37,054 And your mom gave the meal a 10. 1379 01:15:37,228 --> 01:15:38,055 - [ softly ] I gave it an A for effort. 1380 01:15:38,229 --> 01:15:40,318 [ laughter ] 1381 01:15:40,492 --> 01:15:42,494 I really think the reason he cooked for me this morning 1382 01:15:42,668 --> 01:15:45,192 was because he knew he was gonna be accountable to you today. 1383 01:15:45,366 --> 01:15:47,064 - Not so. Not so. 1384 01:15:47,238 --> 01:15:49,545 [ laughter ] 1385 01:15:49,719 --> 01:15:52,852 [ music ] 1386 01:15:53,026 --> 01:15:55,246 [ chime ] - Ronnie's calling. 1387 01:15:55,420 --> 01:15:56,769 [ chime ] Ronnie? 1388 01:15:56,943 --> 01:15:58,902 - Hey, sis. 1389 01:15:59,076 --> 01:16:00,730 [ clears throat ] Um... 1390 01:16:00,904 --> 01:16:04,385 I missed the first flight but got on a follow-on. 1391 01:16:04,560 --> 01:16:07,214 Sorry I missed your calls. 1392 01:16:07,388 --> 01:16:10,304 - But you're on your way? 1393 01:16:10,478 --> 01:16:13,569 - Yeah, I'll be there. 1394 01:16:13,743 --> 01:16:15,005 Kate on speaker: Ronnie? 1395 01:16:15,179 --> 01:16:18,922 - Yeah--Kate, I'm sorry that-- 1396 01:16:19,096 --> 01:16:21,098 - Don't mind any of that. 1397 01:16:21,272 --> 01:16:24,014 Uh, today it's about Mom and Dad. 1398 01:16:24,188 --> 01:16:26,059 I haven't even told them you're coming yet. 1399 01:16:26,233 --> 01:16:27,757 - I'll surprise 'em. 1400 01:16:27,931 --> 01:16:33,240 - Okay. I'll see you soon. [ chime ] 1401 01:16:33,414 --> 01:16:43,381 [ music ] 1402 01:16:49,474 --> 01:16:54,914 [ chatter ] 1403 01:16:55,088 --> 01:16:56,960 Charlie: It wouldn't have been the same without you. 1404 01:16:57,134 --> 01:16:59,005 Kenneth: Hey. Charlie: You guys fly or drive? 1405 01:16:59,179 --> 01:17:00,616 Kenneth: Well, we ended up flying. 1406 01:17:00,790 --> 01:17:02,443 Flying ain't what it was 10 years ago. 1407 01:17:02,618 --> 01:17:03,619 Charlie: Better or worse? 1408 01:17:03,793 --> 01:17:05,055 - Have you seen him? 1409 01:17:05,229 --> 01:17:07,884 - Rick's waiting for him at the door. 1410 01:17:08,058 --> 01:17:09,494 We should probably get started soon. 1411 01:17:09,668 --> 01:17:10,713 These kids aren't gonna last all night. 1412 01:17:10,887 --> 01:17:13,150 - Yeah, you're probably right. 1413 01:17:13,324 --> 01:17:14,325 - I'll get Dad to do the blessing. 1414 01:17:14,499 --> 01:17:24,422 Okay, thanks. 1415 01:17:30,254 --> 01:17:32,125 - Cold out there. 1416 01:17:32,299 --> 01:17:34,475 - Hey--Ronnie? I'm Rick. I'm Kate's husband. 1417 01:17:34,650 --> 01:17:36,695 - Guess I missed the dinner? 1418 01:17:36,869 --> 01:17:38,828 - [ laughs ] Trust me, there's plenty of food left over. 1419 01:17:39,002 --> 01:17:40,438 Everyone's inside and they're just now starting 1420 01:17:40,612 --> 01:17:42,745 to share their tributes, so come on. 1421 01:17:42,919 --> 01:17:45,704 - Um, listen, I--I don't wanna interrupt what's going on. 1422 01:17:45,878 --> 01:17:47,575 Is there a place where I can listen in 1423 01:17:47,750 --> 01:17:50,056 without all of a sudden being the center of attention? 1424 01:17:50,230 --> 01:17:55,671 - [ laughs ] I'm way ahead of you--got the perfect spot picked out. 1425 01:17:55,845 --> 01:17:59,892 - So in honor of your amazing 50 years together, 1426 01:18:00,066 --> 01:18:03,983 your children decided to take a minute and let you know 1427 01:18:04,157 --> 01:18:06,507 just how much you mean to us. 1428 01:18:06,682 --> 01:18:09,119 We thought it best to find a way to preserve 1429 01:18:09,293 --> 01:18:11,338 our thoughts for you. 1430 01:18:11,512 --> 01:18:15,603 Kate: We decided to go in age order from youngest to oldest. 1431 01:18:15,778 --> 01:18:21,174 And this is what Faith wrote. 1432 01:18:21,348 --> 01:18:27,877 [ music ] 1433 01:18:28,051 --> 01:18:31,054 - Mom and Dad, I have had many years to think of what my life 1434 01:18:31,228 --> 01:18:32,708 might have been if you two had not made me 1435 01:18:32,882 --> 01:18:35,232 part of a forever family. 1436 01:18:35,406 --> 01:18:37,147 I've read about the lives of the children 1437 01:18:37,321 --> 01:18:40,846 who spend their childhood in orphanages. 1438 01:18:41,020 --> 01:18:43,719 Chen and I know firsthand that even the best orphanages 1439 01:18:43,893 --> 01:18:47,113 can never give a child all the things you gave me. 1440 01:18:47,287 --> 01:18:49,594 Your whole life was about giving to our family. 1441 01:18:49,768 --> 01:18:52,945 You gave us so much. 1442 01:18:53,119 --> 01:18:55,295 But today, I wanna thank you for the three most 1443 01:18:55,469 --> 01:18:57,297 important things you gave me. 1444 01:18:57,471 --> 01:19:00,474 First, you gave me the gift of security. 1445 01:19:00,648 --> 01:19:03,129 As a child, I knew that whatever happened in my day, 1446 01:19:03,303 --> 01:19:07,960 even if it was a pesky, bratty brother tormenting me [ laughter ] 1447 01:19:08,134 --> 01:19:09,527 I would always have a mom and dad 1448 01:19:09,701 --> 01:19:11,485 that would show me unconditional love. 1449 01:19:11,659 --> 01:19:14,880 I remember the time when I was eight, when I packed 1450 01:19:15,054 --> 01:19:18,971 my little suitcase and I told you I was moving back to China. 1451 01:19:19,145 --> 01:19:20,451 I remember you telling me, Mom, that you would leave my room 1452 01:19:20,625 --> 01:19:22,148 the way it was, just in case things 1453 01:19:22,322 --> 01:19:23,671 didn't work out for me in China. 1454 01:19:23,846 --> 01:19:26,022 That's all I really wanted to hear. 1455 01:19:26,196 --> 01:19:28,459 I never made it out the door. 1456 01:19:28,633 --> 01:19:30,983 I had a home. 1457 01:19:31,157 --> 01:19:35,683 You gave me a place to belong, and a family to belong to. 1458 01:19:35,858 --> 01:19:37,729 When people who could tell I looked different 1459 01:19:37,903 --> 01:19:40,645 from my siblings would ask how long I'd been in the family, 1460 01:19:40,819 --> 01:19:42,560 I remember you telling them, Dad, 1461 01:19:42,734 --> 01:19:45,171 that God had determined I would be a Morris long before 1462 01:19:45,345 --> 01:19:47,260 any of us were born. 1463 01:19:47,434 --> 01:19:50,916 Even when I struggled with my identity as a teenager, 1464 01:19:51,090 --> 01:19:56,226 you kept reminding me of what is true--that my identity 1465 01:19:56,400 --> 01:19:59,316 isn't found in the color of my skin, or the city 1466 01:19:59,490 --> 01:20:01,840 where my birth parents lived. 1467 01:20:02,014 --> 01:20:06,062 You taught me that my true identity is as a child of God. 1468 01:20:06,236 --> 01:20:08,281 [ tearful ] And that's the third gift you gave me... 1469 01:20:08,455 --> 01:20:15,854 [ music ] 1470 01:20:16,028 --> 01:20:23,688 You gave me the gift of a living faith. 1471 01:20:23,862 --> 01:20:26,473 You made sure we were all in church. 1472 01:20:26,647 --> 01:20:28,432 You were, Dad, you were faithful to read 1473 01:20:28,606 --> 01:20:33,132 the bible to us. [ sniffs ] 1474 01:20:33,306 --> 01:20:35,265 But the loudest sermon I heard growing up was the one 1475 01:20:35,439 --> 01:20:38,964 both of you preached by the way you walked. 1476 01:20:39,138 --> 01:20:43,099 I learned what it looks like to believe in God and walk with him 1477 01:20:43,273 --> 01:20:49,932 every day by watching how you walked with him. 1478 01:20:50,106 --> 01:20:52,935 I know my siblings were stunned when they found out 1479 01:20:53,109 --> 01:20:55,589 that their adopted sister was actually 1480 01:20:55,763 --> 01:20:59,115 your favorite child. [ laughter ] 1481 01:20:59,289 --> 01:21:00,899 But I wasn't surprised at all. 1482 01:21:01,073 --> 01:21:02,988 I knew it was true. 1483 01:21:03,162 --> 01:21:06,687 So thank you, for all the gifts you've given me. 1484 01:21:06,862 --> 01:21:10,387 Chen and I pray that heritage you've given us 1485 01:21:10,561 --> 01:21:12,389 will become a mighty legacy that will live 1486 01:21:12,563 --> 01:21:14,739 for generations, through our children 1487 01:21:14,913 --> 01:21:16,610 and our children's children. 1488 01:21:16,784 --> 01:21:18,438 I love you, Mom and Dad. 1489 01:21:18,612 --> 01:21:20,440 Your daughter forever, Faith. 1490 01:21:20,614 --> 01:21:30,537 [ music ] 1491 01:21:46,989 --> 01:21:49,905 - Well, I originally was going to title mine 1492 01:21:50,079 --> 01:21:54,039 "A Tribute from your Favorite Child." 1493 01:21:54,213 --> 01:21:58,826 But, uh, I didn't wanna crush Faith with the truth, 1494 01:21:59,001 --> 01:22:03,919 so I ended up calling it "Here's to my Imperfect 1495 01:22:04,093 --> 01:22:09,054 but Faithful Parents, from your very imperfect son." 1496 01:22:09,228 --> 01:22:12,362 In the bible, the apostle Paul said, "I am who I am 1497 01:22:12,536 --> 01:22:15,017 by the grace of God." 1498 01:22:15,191 --> 01:22:17,193 And I can say the same, except I have a second part 1499 01:22:17,367 --> 01:22:21,197 to that phrase--I am who I am by the grace of God, 1500 01:22:21,371 --> 01:22:25,723 and because of the faithfulness of my mom and d. 1501 01:22:25,897 --> 01:22:28,769 My parents learned early that their third-born was stubborn 1502 01:22:28,944 --> 01:22:31,033 and strong-willed. 1503 01:22:31,207 --> 01:22:33,296 Dad, I remember you used to love telling people 1504 01:22:33,470 --> 01:22:35,646 that when I was a child I drew a circle around myself 1505 01:22:35,820 --> 01:22:38,388 and called myself the Lord of the Ring. 1506 01:22:38,562 --> 01:22:39,824 But we both knew that there was more truth there 1507 01:22:39,998 --> 01:22:43,175 than either of us wanted to admit. 1508 01:22:43,349 --> 01:22:46,439 But I think the biggest lesson I learned from you as you tried 1509 01:22:46,613 --> 01:22:50,052 to redirect all my rambunctious impulses was that in the end, 1510 01:22:50,226 --> 01:22:54,360 people matter more than things. 1511 01:22:54,534 --> 01:23:00,236 Relationships matter more than always having to be right. 1512 01:23:00,410 --> 01:23:04,327 And love matters most. 1513 01:23:04,501 --> 01:23:06,329 And you both taught me that by how you faithfully loved 1514 01:23:06,503 --> 01:23:12,465 your sometimes hard-to-love son. 1515 01:23:12,639 --> 01:23:15,773 [ voice cracking ] So in the end, that will be your legacy, 1516 01:23:15,947 --> 01:23:17,427 and there could be no greater legacy 1517 01:23:17,601 --> 01:23:20,473 than a legacy of faithful love. 1518 01:23:20,647 --> 01:23:23,085 I love you two very much. 1519 01:23:23,259 --> 01:23:25,478 "Your son, Josh." 1520 01:23:25,652 --> 01:23:34,270 [ music ] 1521 01:23:34,444 --> 01:23:41,103 - I'm proud of you, Son. - I know, Dad. Thank you. 1522 01:23:41,277 --> 01:23:43,235 Alice: You make it sound harder than it was. 1523 01:23:43,409 --> 01:23:44,323 - Your memory's failing you, Mom. 1524 01:23:44,497 --> 01:23:47,457 [ laughter ] 1525 01:23:47,631 --> 01:23:51,417 - So I decided not to include in my tribute about being 1526 01:23:51,591 --> 01:23:53,593 the favorite child, because you know, that was our secret. 1527 01:23:53,767 --> 01:23:56,988 [ laughter ] And I know how to keep a secret. 1528 01:23:57,162 --> 01:24:00,296 So Faith and Josh, I am sure you are really 1529 01:24:00,470 --> 01:24:04,474 the favorite children. 1530 01:24:04,648 --> 01:24:10,393 My tribute is called "My Two Moms and Dads." 1531 01:24:10,567 --> 01:24:14,179 When I was 15, I got a new mom and dad. 1532 01:24:14,353 --> 01:24:18,879 My--my old mom and dad, um, they were loving and kind, 1533 01:24:19,054 --> 01:24:22,187 caring and gentle. 1534 01:24:22,361 --> 01:24:27,584 My new mom and dad, um, well, they were also loving and kind, 1535 01:24:27,758 --> 01:24:33,633 but I didn't realize it at the time. 1536 01:24:33,807 --> 01:24:39,596 I, in fact, didn't care for my, uh, new parents all that much. 1537 01:24:39,770 --> 01:24:43,426 They, uh, put new boundaries in place. 1538 01:24:43,600 --> 01:24:48,735 They said no to things that they normally said yes to. 1539 01:24:48,909 --> 01:24:53,523 But there was something about this new set of parents. 1540 01:24:53,697 --> 01:24:58,180 They, uh, didn't rattle easy. 1541 01:24:58,354 --> 01:25:01,618 They had an inner peace. 1542 01:25:01,792 --> 01:25:04,664 They had new priorities. 1543 01:25:04,838 --> 01:25:10,583 And they calmly and quietly went about reshaping our family, 1544 01:25:10,757 --> 01:25:15,675 and in that process they showed me what it means to live my life 1545 01:25:15,849 --> 01:25:19,810 in Jesus, instead of trying to find a place for Jesus 1546 01:25:19,984 --> 01:25:23,553 in my life. 1547 01:25:23,727 --> 01:25:28,514 Mom and Dad, I can't express to you how grateful I am 1548 01:25:28,688 --> 01:25:38,785 for all the fun times, the love, memories, and most of all, 1549 01:25:38,959 --> 01:25:48,578 the model that you showed me how to walk humbly with your God. 1550 01:25:51,450 --> 01:26:00,111 I love you. "Your daughter, Kate." 1551 01:26:00,285 --> 01:26:03,462 Alice: That was beautiful. 1552 01:26:03,636 --> 01:26:13,516 [ music ] 1553 01:26:19,696 --> 01:26:20,610 - Well, before we cut the cake, there's something 1554 01:26:20,784 --> 01:26:22,264 I wanna say about it. 1555 01:26:22,438 --> 01:26:24,788 Uh, we wanted to do something very special 1556 01:26:24,962 --> 01:26:34,798 for Mom and Dad... 1557 01:26:41,457 --> 01:26:51,162 - Josh, I realize I'm kinda late--here tonight. 1558 01:26:52,685 --> 01:26:58,604 Like about, uh, 30-some-odd years late. 1559 01:26:58,778 --> 01:27:04,741 And Kate said something, uh, about tributes 1560 01:27:04,915 --> 01:27:09,876 when I talked to her last. 1561 01:27:10,050 --> 01:27:17,710 I guess I probably didn't listen all that carefully to her. 1562 01:27:17,884 --> 01:27:20,800 That's been an issue, uh, of mine over the years, 1563 01:27:20,974 --> 01:27:26,850 not listening to what other people were telling me. 1564 01:27:27,024 --> 01:27:29,983 Oh, but I don't wanna take the spotlight off 1565 01:27:30,157 --> 01:27:36,686 where it belongs-- on Mom and Dad. 1566 01:27:36,860 --> 01:27:42,126 Um, I think I remember 1567 01:27:42,300 --> 01:27:46,348 reading once, 1568 01:27:46,522 --> 01:27:50,134 "Hear, my son... 1569 01:27:50,308 --> 01:27:58,403 "your father's instructions... 1570 01:27:58,577 --> 01:28:01,363 "and forsake not... 1571 01:28:01,537 --> 01:28:04,061 "your mother's teaching. 1572 01:28:04,235 --> 01:28:11,851 [ music ] 1573 01:28:12,025 --> 01:28:15,986 Back then, I didn't listen, uh, to--well, to much of anything, 1574 01:28:16,160 --> 01:28:22,166 other than my own perceived intelligence and upperclassmen, 1575 01:28:22,340 --> 01:28:25,604 or my instructors, whose approval I was craving 1576 01:28:25,778 --> 01:28:34,004 at the time. 1577 01:28:34,178 --> 01:28:44,144 Um, I am glad that my own son Tim and his wife Elizabeth 1578 01:28:44,667 --> 01:28:47,409 are able to be here today. 1579 01:28:47,583 --> 01:28:50,325 I guess it's about time that they met y'all, 1580 01:28:50,499 --> 01:28:53,676 and you all met them. 1581 01:28:53,850 --> 01:29:03,425 Uh, especially since Tim has just taken a new job at Fort Mill. 1582 01:29:05,383 --> 01:29:06,253 And son, I'm-- 1583 01:29:06,428 --> 01:29:11,694 glad-- 1584 01:29:11,868 --> 01:29:13,130 that you're gonna finally get a chance 1585 01:29:13,304 --> 01:29:14,610 to meet your grandmother and grandfather, 1586 01:29:14,784 --> 01:29:18,178 and get to--know them. 1587 01:29:18,353 --> 01:29:24,837 I should have, years ago. 1588 01:29:25,011 --> 01:29:34,891 [ music ] 1589 01:30:01,047 --> 01:30:05,095 [ chatter ] 1590 01:30:05,269 --> 01:30:07,663 - Night, guys. 1591 01:30:07,837 --> 01:30:09,752 Mom, what are you doing? 1592 01:30:09,926 --> 01:30:10,927 I have someone coming on Monday to do this. 1593 01:30:11,101 --> 01:30:12,537 It's your anniversary. 1594 01:30:12,711 --> 01:30:14,060 - Well, I'm just rinsing a few dishes. 1595 01:30:14,234 --> 01:30:16,236 You know me, I can't leave a dirty kitchen. 1596 01:30:16,411 --> 01:30:21,720 - [ sigh ] Okay, I know I'm not gonna win an argument with you. 1597 01:30:21,894 --> 01:30:24,810 - Mm-hmm. 1598 01:30:24,984 --> 01:30:26,812 - Are you okay? 1599 01:30:26,986 --> 01:30:30,947 - Mm-hmm. Ronnie's gonna stay at the house. 1600 01:30:31,121 --> 01:30:32,905 This is a good thing? 1601 01:30:33,079 --> 01:30:38,955 - Yeah, it's good. It's really good. 1602 01:30:39,129 --> 01:30:43,133 - Okay. Well, listen, if you're gonna do dishes, then, uh, 1603 01:30:43,307 --> 01:30:44,177 you need to do 'em right. 1604 01:30:44,351 --> 01:30:54,231 - Oh. [ laughter ] 1605 01:31:02,500 --> 01:31:04,241 - We're about to head home. 1606 01:31:04,415 --> 01:31:07,200 I just wanted to say goodbye, and how thankful we both 1607 01:31:07,374 --> 01:31:09,246 are to finally get to meet you and Grandpa. 1608 01:31:09,420 --> 01:31:14,077 - Well, you just don't know. Oh. 1609 01:31:14,251 --> 01:31:17,515 - You two have no idea how thrilled your grandma and I 1610 01:31:17,689 --> 01:31:20,997 are that you're gonna be moving just right down the road in Fort Mill. 1611 01:31:21,171 --> 01:31:21,780 We're gonna have to have you over. 1612 01:31:21,954 --> 01:31:24,043 - Mm-hmm. 1613 01:31:24,217 --> 01:31:26,829 - Better yet, we need to give you two a night off 1614 01:31:27,003 --> 01:31:27,873 and get to know your kids better. 1615 01:31:28,047 --> 01:31:29,745 - Yes. 1616 01:31:29,919 --> 01:31:33,749 - Wow, that's very kind of you--thank you. 1617 01:31:33,923 --> 01:31:37,230 - Truth is, I have so many questions I'd love to ask you. 1618 01:31:37,404 --> 01:31:40,190 Sometimes I just don't know what to do with the little ones. 1619 01:31:40,364 --> 01:31:43,019 - Oh, honey, I understand. 1620 01:31:43,193 --> 01:31:46,283 When Ronnie was born, I was so scared. 1621 01:31:46,457 --> 01:31:48,372 I didn't have a clue what I was doing. 1622 01:31:48,546 --> 01:31:50,417 Bye bye. Say "bye." [ baby babbling ] 1623 01:31:50,592 --> 01:31:54,857 Bye bye. 1624 01:31:55,031 --> 01:31:58,121 [ music ] 1625 01:31:58,295 --> 01:32:00,471 - So they took the baby Jesus and they wrapped him 1626 01:32:00,645 --> 01:32:05,955 in swaddling clothes, and they laid him in a manger. 1627 01:32:06,129 --> 01:32:08,218 [ laughs ] What are you doing? 1628 01:32:08,392 --> 01:32:12,091 Tell them the story. 1629 01:32:12,265 --> 01:32:14,920 - Now, there were shepherds abiding in the field, 1630 01:32:15,094 --> 01:32:18,315 keeping watch over their flocks by night. 1631 01:32:18,489 --> 01:32:22,101 And suddenly, the angel of the Lord came upon them, 1632 01:32:22,275 --> 01:32:24,800 and the glory of the Lord shone round about them, 1633 01:32:24,974 --> 01:32:28,630 and they were so afraid. 1634 01:32:28,804 --> 01:32:31,807 The angel said unto them, "Fear not, for behold, 1635 01:32:31,981 --> 01:32:34,679 I bring you good tidings of great joy." 1636 01:32:34,853 --> 01:32:44,733 [ music ]